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  • Comparison: How We Can Work Together To Do Less Of It

    Comparison: How We Can Work Together To Do Less Of It

    I’m going to kick off this post with some food for thought, a quote by Theodore Roosevelt… “Comparison is the thief of joy.” When’s the last time you compared yourself to someone? It very well might have been recently, and that’s okay if it is.

    I’m writing this post because I think comparison can get the best of us all sometimes, and we can all fall victim to it at times. We have constant access to social media feeds and other’s highlight reels, other’s bodies, and other’s successes. How could we not feel low sometimes, or feel like “why can’t I be more like X?”

    Not only are there other people to compare ourselves to, but there’s comparison to our own selves. Looking at old photos, thinking of past times — it can get to your head and drive you mad. “I was so successful doing X a year ago. I was so skinny three years ago.” So, how do we work to stop doing it? I have a few ideas (with the help of some experts), and am hoping this can help us all to stop comparing in some way:

    1. Avoid mindless scrolling on social media. I think we can all use breaks from social media for our mental health, and this might be one way to stop comparing ourselves so much. When we mindlessly scroll, we’re opening ourselves up to comparison — that bikini shot, that cute couple, whatever it is — it could throw you off your path and make you think more negative things about yourself and your life. Don’t let it — I’m really trying to limit my social media use, because I’ve noticed it can totally affect my mental health without even realizing it.
    2. Remind yourself that people’s highlight reels shouldn’t be compared to your daily life. This is something I think about a lot — we’re all constantly exposed to people’s highlight reels of life, but we know the daily struggles we’re going through everyday. It’s not a fair comparison to subconsciously compare ourselves to people’s highlights, because everyone is going through stuff — we just don’t know about it all. This is a good reminder to just stop ourselves when we start going down the rabbit hole of comparison (and I think breaks from social media can help this, too).
    3. Encourage and boost others. In my opinion, people don’t need to be seen as “competition” in our lives — and the more we encourage others and boost their own confidence, the better we may end up feeling about ourselves. I love the recent movement of women supporting women, and I think it totally applies here. Instead of seeing a woman in her bikini looking incredible and thinking “Ah, I wish I had that body,” maybe instead say “Wow she looks great!” This is something I’m working on doing, because my body and my own journey shouldn’t be compared to others, it is my own and it is special. It shouldn’t be compared to another person’s success, it should be my own path — a path where I’m allowed to celebrate others’ successes, in addition to my own.

    I hope these short ideas helped in some sort of way, and I also hope you come out of this blog post ready to stop comparing! We got this.

    XOXO Kenzie

    Sources: Psychology Today

  • Getting “Ghosted”: How It Affects Our Confidence & How Do We Get Past It?

    Getting “Ghosted”: How It Affects Our Confidence & How Do We Get Past It?

    If you’re living in the world of modern dating, there’s no doubt in my mind you’ve been ghosted before. Ghosting is a relatively new colloquial dating term that refers to abruptly cutting off contact with someone without giving that person any warning or explanation for doing so. And even when the person being ghosted reaches out to re-initiate contact or gain closure, they’re met with silence.

    I was recently ghosted after a first date that I thought went extremely well — it’s kind of funny to think about actually. I totally thought this guy was going to reach out to me again, no question — and never heard a word. We were out for 6 hours, hit it off completely, he paid for everything, and there was no reason for me to believe I wouldn’t see him again. I was stunned. But I was recently listening to something that said a first date can go three ways:

    1. They want to continue dating you
    2. They just want to hook up with you
    3. They never want to see you again

    After dating a lot, I actually find this to be so true. This guy was definitely a number 2 for me — or maybe 3 haha — he just wanted to hook up and then never wanted to see me again. And that’s fine, dude.

    My take on it is that after one date, it’s okay. So, to the guy from Hinge who ghosted me after one, I forgive you. My issue is when you get past the first date and go to two, three, and beyond — and then you get ghosted. I do have a problem with that because I think it’s only fair to tell someone what’s going on — especially if they’re following up and looking for answers.

    What I want to talk about is how ghosting affects our confidence and things we can do to get past that self-doubt. Whenever I’ve been ghosted, I start to go down a rabbit hole of wondering what I did, what I said, what I looked like — the whole thing. But whenever I ghost someone (which I’ve only done a few times) — I feel like I want to save that person from hearing what I have to say. So I understand it from both sides. The reality is, we will never get our answer and we have to stop the voices in our heads saying we did something wrong, and just move on (easier said than done, I know).

    The key point I want to make here — is if you do get ghosted, try to remember that the person just wasn’t your person. Stay positive about yourself in the process. Get back on the horse and go on more dates. I think the thing I’m really starting to realize is my person will find me some way or another. All of these roadblocks and ghosts and shitty situations are only going to lead me to find what’s right for me. To all my single friends, I believe the same is true for you — so keep your head up!

    XOXO, Kenzie

  • Staying Positive About Ourselves Through the Challenges of Dating & Relationships in a Pandemic

    Staying Positive About Ourselves Through the Challenges of Dating & Relationships in a Pandemic

    I’ve said this to a lot of people over the last year or so — but dating in COVID is hard as hell.

    I’ll explain it simply: We are all navigating this weird time and had our lives turned upside down, and majority of us are even questioning what we want out of life. We all aren’t exactly ourselves mentally and truly just trying to survive and figure it out. We also haven’t been socializing like normal, so not only is there less content to talk about on dates (which has gotten slightly better lately), but it also seems near impossible to keep momentum going. I can’t explain it well enough to people who aren’t in it, but I promise you, if you’re in the same boat — I empathize with you. It sucks sometimes.

    But what I’m here to talk about is how we build ourselves up during what is quite possibly the most mentally taxing period of time for a single person on the dating scene. When a date goes bad, our minds instinctively go inwards — what did I do to drive them away? What didn’t I do? Is it something about me? Well, one of my prerogatives is changing this mentality to “THEIR LOSS” every time, but sometimes emotions get the best of us.

    For example, I went on a date recently where I kind of didn’t care about the outcome. I was feeling myself, didn’t know if I was interested in him, and didn’t care the outcome either way. I was flying high on my emotions at this point of my week.

    But then arrived a different date in the week, where I was excited about the guy I was out with. I truly hadn’t felt a spark or connection like that in a while, which was a GREAT thing in the moment, but has also led me down the dark path of overthinking. Now questioning if I did something wrong, was too much, ya know — the whole gamut. It hasn’t even been a week since the date, but that’s where we’re at — HA.

    But I’ve quickly brought myself down to earth with what I’ve mentioned above. POSITIVE SELF-TALK. 100% of the time in dating it is not about you, it’s about the other person. And to my original point, lord knows what anyone is going through during this hard time. To think anything further than that is a disservice to ourselves and our worth. It’s all about quickly refocusing on what’s important during dating– YOU. What you need, what you deserve, and that is everything of your wildest dreams in my book.

    To those of you in relationships, I equally empathize with you, as I can’t imagine the hardships you’re facing in your own right. No matter what, this time in our lives is taxing and emotional.

    This post is to remind ALL OF US that our self-talk is so important in these times. It’s so important to build ourselves up, continue to learn what we deserve (and DEMAND it), and continue to find our happiness — whatever that looks like.

    XOXO, Kenzie

  • Turning 30: Expectations, Reflections, and Looking Forward

    Turning 30: Expectations, Reflections, and Looking Forward

    After turning 30 this past weekend, I’ve been reflecting a lot on life. I remember thinking 30 was a very old person when I was younger (ha!), but now I’d beg to differ with my younger self. I personally think my life is just starting to take off, but I wanted to spend some time talking about the expectations I feel from society, reflections, and how I’m choosing to look forward.

    I was talking to my coworkers today and they asked me how my birthday was. OBVIOUSLY I responded that it was incredible to spend amazing time with family and friends. But I also told them that I turned the big 3-0 and that in our society, people put a certain negative stigma around turning it. Women are kind of expected to start thinking about children (because of our biological time clocks and because the generation ahead of us was WAY ahead of us by this point in their lives). Well, the reality is, I am single as a pringle. I live alone. And I am nowhere near to considering kids (and not even sure my path on the subject yet).

    But what I’ve been working on in the last few months, and even last year or so, is being present — and getting to know myself in the process. I’m not sure what I want out of life yet. But instead of dreading that and wondering where I “should” be in life, I’m excited to continue to figure out what my life means for me.

    30 to me feels like possibility. I have an established career, I am learning more about myself and falling in love with myself more each day, I am embracing independence like never before. I have so many things that I want to do and achieve, and I’m excited about these things. But being present means I don’t put pressure on what that looks like or when that comes.

    Do I want to find a life partner? I do think that I do. But until then, I’m not going to sit around and mope that I’m 30 and single. I’m going to embrace dating, random hookups, flirting with multiple people at once, and even experimenting with different kinds of people. I’m also going to embrace being on my own as much as possible. You can always find me at a wedding, flying solo, having the best damn time. I’m aware that some nights are harder than others, but the nights where I thrive on my own are so much more powerful to me.

    While I had an incredible 30th birthday, I also had to say a final goodbye to my best friend — my grandmother (who I call Gage). Gage has taught me so many things about life and I am so excited to live in her honor every day. She had a wild spirit like me and we shared so many similarities that I hold close. She is one of a kind. Gage wants the best for me and my life, and it put me at ease this weekend to know she’ll be looking down on me my entire life to make sure that I am enjoying it. This is something that also helped to carry me through my 30th birthday without expectation or judgement, just living.

    Cheers to 30 years young. And cheers to embracing life at whatever age we’re at, with no expectation of where you “should” be in life.

    XOXO, Kenzie

  • The Curve Confessions Is Back! (And Talking Fashion, Thoughts on the Term Plus-Size, & Brands I’m Loving)

    The Curve Confessions Is Back! (And Talking Fashion, Thoughts on the Term Plus-Size, & Brands I’m Loving)

    Wow, it has been a minute since I’ve posted to the blog! I hope everyone is staying happy and safe during this crazy time (that sometimes seems never-ending). The first topic I’m going to tackle on my big return is… fashion — every facet of it, good and bad.

    I remember the first time I had to shop through sizes bigger than a large. I was in the “normal” women’s section, clearly coming to the realization that I needed bigger clothes. I had just gained some weight and I was in need of sizes XL and above. So, I had to begrudgingly make my way over to the plus size section. I don’t even remember which store I was in, but I remember shuffling through those clothes so quickly, as not to be seen. But, why did I care about the sizes I was picking up? No one looks at the tags I have on, people just see me out in the world. 

    But to me at the time, it was discouraging and embarrassing. But that’s because of the pressure put on us from the media and social media. Because of these mediums, we are made to think that being a bigger size is a bad thing. And that’s because 2% of women shown in the media are plus-size. TWO PERCENT. When in reality, 67% of women wear sizes 16 and above (or, what they call “plus size”). So, we’re seeing people who aren’t really reality. But we are made to think they are.

    Why are these sizes carried in a separate section? Why are they given the egregious term, “plus-size”? Large and extra large have always had a negative connotation in our society. “I look large” is something constantly said by women when they’re not feeling good about themselves. And when people look thin, it’s celebrated beyond belief. 

    Lately I’ve been doing a lot of internal work on myself and my connection to my appearance. I’ve put too much emphasis on my appearance and my weight my entire life (something I blame on  a lot of factors), but I’m trying to dig deeper beyond my appearance, and no longer correlate my worth to my jeans or dress size. But it’s hard in a society that pushes this thin messaging on us, constantly. 

    If you look skinny, you’re praised. If you log into Instagram, you’re plagued with models with flat stomachs in two piece bikinis on some island in Greece. You stop to think for a second, even though you don’t want to, “Why can’t I have that?” “Am I enough?”

    You question everything. You question if you’re good enough, if you’re thin enough, if you have enough. You might even critique yourself in the process and start the negative self-talk at this point, aloud or in your head.

    What I want to do is continue to bring awareness to this through The Curve Confessions. So you and I can continue to check ourselves when we start that negative self-talk. And remind ourselves in those moments that we are enough. We are “hot” enough. We are doing enough. And we have everything we need within us. It’s not material things that make us happy, it’s our inner peace that does. And holy shit, has this year or so helped bring this to the forefront.

    I will cover this more in the blog in-depth, but just let this post be a reminder to you… you are enough just the way you are.

    While on the topic of fashion, I absolutely love fashion. I love expressing myself through my clothes and accessories. I love feeling sexy in what I’m in. So, here are a few brands that have helped me to do so that you can also jump on:

    Armoire – I discovered Armoire through my job, and am so glad that I did. Armoire is a fashion rental brand that allows you to rent, wear, and return clothes — it’s women-founded, size inclusive, and sustainable. Yes, that’s right — size inclusive! You take a quiz and it curates your feed to give you styles and sizes suitable to you. I’m loving it so far. In my last case, I got a Lily Pulitzer dress to wear to a wedding, and my new favorite piece that I wore to a rehearsal dinner (and actually bought myself for my 30th birthday celebration coming up). I have the 7 items per case subscription, but you can get less or more than that! Use my code at armoire.style/refer/kenziep to get 50% off your first month!

    Honeylove – This is a brand that I found through Instagram ads, and they have the best spanx I’ve ever encountered in my life. I love how they make me feel solid in my mid-section, which is a huge part of my confidence when I’m wearing tighter items. I don’t have a code, but man I recommend this brand. Here are the spanx I bought and wear religiously (I’m wearing them under my green bridesmaids dress for my sister’s wedding).

    There will be more where this came from, I promise! Let me know if you enjoyed this post or have any comments. So excited to be writing again! XOXO, Kenzie

  • “If you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best”

    “If you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best”

    Mistakes… we all make them. We make the wrong judgment call when it comes to an argument with a friend, we make a choice that isn’t the best for our wellbeing, or even worse–we do something that is harmful to ourselves and maybe even potentially life-altering.

    I’ve done all of the above, as have I’m sure many of you who are reading, too. But what I’ve been reminded of recently is that life isn’t a linear progression. You don’t just soar to the top with no bumps in the road, no lessons learned, and no life-changing moments. And if you think you do, then that just isn’t reality.

    I was recently having many great weeks in a row of progress in my life (after some really shitty weeks prior) and “kicking ass” — I felt absolutely unstoppable. I was like, wow, I’ve really turned my stuff around and am killing it! I was riding the high of where I was at at that moment, before quickly realizing it wasn’t going to last forever.

    Then swiftly arrives a mistake I made, letting someone toxic from my past back in momentarily. When it happened, I felt so incredibly low. I was embarrassed. I wanted to crawl in my shell and hide, and I wanted to just shy away from the way it made me feel about myself. I felt like I had failed all of the progress that I had previously been making.

    But then, that reminder came — “life isn’t a linear progression.” And I realized if every single mistake I made was going to drag me down so far, how is that even life? It’s not. Every mistake that I make builds me into the next step, the next thing, the next growing experience. So after carrying some shame around from that situation, I took the lessons it gave me — how bad I felt after it happened, how it tested me and my strength with that person that I needed to work on — and I flipped it into a learning moment.

    And this isn’t the only mistake I’ve made since then, but one example of many that our mistakes do not define us. We all make mistakes. We all have low moments. We all have things to work on. But it’s how we come out of these situations stronger that really defines us.

    It also made me realize it’s all about who is surrounding me and supporting me. I’m focusing on surrounding myself with people who accept me, even in my darkest and lowest times, knowing very well we will get stronger and better together. Those are the people I want around me. And those are the people I will continue to keep around me.

    We are in some hard times right now and I am there for you in whatever this post means to you and whatever mistakes you are making and learning from. I hope you keep your head up and keep learning and growing because that’s just life, my friend, and I am right here with you.

    “If you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”

    XOXO,

    Kenzie

  • How (I’m Trying to) Practice Body Positivity in Quarantine

    How (I’m Trying to) Practice Body Positivity in Quarantine

    Since coming home a few months ago for what I thought would be a few short weeks with my family has quickly turned into staying put for the foreseeable future—with a scary, unknown situation unfolding in every which way around us. I am lucky enough to have a remote job that is not (currently) affected by this, but I know there are many people in less fortunate situations than me, or even working on the front lines of this pandemic. I absolutely feel for and empathize with everyone in the world fighting their own battles right now, and I can’t say that enough.

    I’ve contemplated what to write on my blog—if anything at all—during this time. And while I can’t provide answers to you on the pandemic, jobs, or anything else for that matter, what I think I can provide is a little realness about my own struggles with my body image during this time and how I’m working on being positive—in hopes it resonates with anyone else out there struggling. It’s fricken’ hard.

    We’ve all heard the jokes (or joked ourselves) about the impact this situation is having on our bodies. We are eating differently than normal—and if you’re like me, more frequently—and we are stressed AF in addition. There is no doubt our bodies can—and will—see fluctuations, and it feels hard not to fixate on that at times. Or at least for me it does.

    In my eyes, I can’t control a lot of things in this situation, but I do have control over how I talk to and treat myself. These are some things I’m trying to focus on in each day:

    1. Saying my positive affirmations aloud everyday. The mornings can sometimes be the worst. I wake up and might think, “Welp, here we go again.” So when I wake up, I’m trying to head straight into my bathroom to look at myself in the mirror and tell myself my positive affirmations, whatever those are. “You are smart, beautiful, and strong.” What do you need to tell yourself everyday? Make a list of whatever it is you need and say it out loud. Every day. I know I always preach about this—but right now, I think doing this for ourselves is more important than ever.
    2. Watching out for negative talk about food, and trying to turn it positive (if I can). Food is one of the things that brings us joy in these days, but there’s no question it’s bringing each one of us a different layer of guilt or shame. How many times have you said something negative about how much you’re eating, or how you’re going to “roll out of quarantine?” Yep, I’m guilty too. But we are in a stressful time and I’m really trying to watch out for this negativity. Instead of focusing on what I’m eating, the amount, whatever it is—why not focus on how grateful I am for positive things in my life right now? Like the fact that I’m home with my family, safe, etc. The food I’m eating or even how I’m spending my days doesn’t need to be a source of negativity. We’re all just doing our best, and we’re more than allowed to eat. I’m trying to stop shaming myself for doing so.
    3. Keeping things on my list every single day that make me happy and bring me joy, even on days when I don’t want to do them. Some days are harder than others. Some days I wake up with a more positive attitude and some days I just don’t. It’s a lonely, isolating feeling, and it’s unknown. I’ve learned that there are many things in my days that do make me happy—exercise (even if most of the time I don’t want to do it), calling friends and family to check in (even though there are seldom updates), writing (now’s a good time for me to finish my novel, right?), and other things that may even change as this goes on. Whatever those things are, I’m trying to constantly evaluate and find small ways to make myself happy in every day, which extends to my body both directly and indirectly. This week it might be TikTok-ing and reading, next week it might be painting—who really knows—but I will continue to look for what gives me joy each day and make my best effort to make it happen.
    4. Skipping stepping on the scale and trying on my jeans. It’s tempting, but focusing on our weight and appearances is the last thing we need to be doing right now (in my humble opinion). We are trying to survive, so we have to forgive ourselves if our goals aren’t on the fast track right now and our jeans are a little snug after all this (darn it, I didn’t even bring jeans home!). As tempting as it is to get caught up in our weight and what we “should” be doing with our bodies, to me it’s more helpful to focus on somehow incorporating movement into my day and staying as mentally positive as I can. My weight has nothing to do with that right now, so I’m trying my best not to let it.

    This list is by no means here to tell you I’m doing all of these perfectly—I’m certainly not. But I am trying to work on them every single day, and thought sharing with you all might resonate with someone out there.

    If you have your own strategies for staying positive during this time, please tell me! I’d love to hear from you.

    Stay safe, healthy, and don’t forget to show yourself the love and care you deserve during these crazy times. I know I’m trying, too!

    XOXO, Kenzie

  • 6 Months In A New City: The Good, The Bad, The Isolating, & How I’m Working To Love Myself More

    6 Months In A New City: The Good, The Bad, The Isolating, & How I’m Working To Love Myself More

    It’s insane to think I’ve now been living in New York for 6 months. Absolutely insane.

    In 6 months, I have seen both the greatest, and most difficult days to date. I’ve had days where I feel like I completely belong here and I’m on top of the world. I’ve had days where I didn’t know if I could get up and out of my apartment to face people. I’ve had days where I felt so lonely I wonder why I did what I did, and wondered if anyone even cares about me (crazy, I know). But moving to a new city can be completely isolating. And while exciting, some days I literally feel like I’m on an island.

    But I don’t think this only goes for people moving to a new city, I think it can happen anywhere. I used to be constantly surrounded by family and friends, and sometimes still even felt lonely. What I’ve learned is each day I have a new opportunity to do things that make me happy, make me feel better, and love myself more. So in the process, I’ve worked hard to love the absolute crap out of myself to get through some of the toughest days. Here are a few things I started doing:

    1. I started meditating. I downloaded the Calm app, and truly have been trying to meditate everyday. It’s really helping! My thoughts can get the absolute best of me sometimes, and in the craziness of each day, we don’t always spend time just sitting there with NO thoughts. Meditating sets me up for more calm and peace in my day, which is something I’ve realized I need. Badly.
    2. I’m re-prioritizing things that make me happy. Getting situated, settled, finding work, and all of the above have been a priority since moving. But, what about things that make me happy? I refocused on remembering things that make me happy and making them a huge priority; exercising, yoga, writing, reading, being around people, nights in, going to movies alone, dancing, trying new things – the list goes on! I’m trying to remember that in the daily grind of life, we still have to find time to do the things that make us happy. Simple but true.
    3. I’m practicing daily gratitude and daily affirmations. Right now, my daily affirmation is: You are strong, smart, sassy, & sexy! Sometimes feeling isolated can also have effects on my mental health, and by affirming these words out loud, I’m working on positive self talk and loving myself more. I also write down what I’m grateful for each week in my planner, which has been an amazing addition to my routine to keep myself feeling gratitude in each day.
    4. I’m reading more. This is another thing that eases my anxiety: reading. I’m challenging myself to read a book per month (though I’m hoping it’s more!) Reading expands my mind, calms me, and gives me more room for creativity, which makes me happier in my day to day. Send me your book recommendations!
    5. I’m giving myself grace. I’ve realized in the past 6 months that I put a ton of pressure on myself. I almost feel I’ve put pressure on myself to have some grand experience here, because of telling everyone my plans and dreams of moving to NYC. It makes for anxiety central when I have an off day, or I feel out of place, or whatever the case is. I’m trying to put less pressure on, and give myself grace. Live my life and be happy, but not cost myself my mental health because I want to achieve everything I’m dreaming of.

    Wherever you are, and wherever you’re at in life, just know that you are loved, you are enough, and you are not alone, my friend.

    XOXO, Kenzie

  • How I’m Choosing To Love Myself More Amidst My Holiday Slump (Including A Week Off Social Media)

    How I’m Choosing To Love Myself More Amidst My Holiday Slump (Including A Week Off Social Media)

    Oh, the holiday slump. It comes around for me every holiday season — and I never quite understand why. I’m surrounded by family and friends, I have so much to be thankful for, but why do I feel kind of down in the dumps?

    While I was home for Thanksgiving back in Chicago, it was my first time being back since moving to New York this past summer. It was a weird feeling having not been there for six months, and I’m not sure if I had some expectation for how it would go, or what — but I spent a week of quality time with friends, family, and everyone I’ve been missing for months on end. So it should have been the perfect trip, right?

    At the end of the week, I missed New York. That made me feel good — because it made me feel a sense of home, in my new home. But then I got back, and I just felt very ‘blah,’ as I like to call it.

    Sometimes, I think my expectations can get the best of me. I get so excited about things that it’s almost a let down when things aren’t feeling ‘perfect.’ Does anyone else feel that way? It’s hard for me to accept sometimes that things are just flat, and going okay (or even badly, ha). That’s how I’ve felt post-holidays — between work, personal things, and everything in between — and how I think a lot of other people might be feeling, so I wanted to talk about it. Because, it’s okay to be in a slump and feel a little down sometimes. To me, it’s how I get myself out of it and realign myself that’s important.

    Once I realized where my mental state was a few weeks ago, I started evaluating what was making me feel joy and what wasn’t. I realized social media was not bringing me joy at all. I was mindlessly scrolling, and it was making me feel extremely lonely. I also felt like I didn’t have anything to say on my blog, and it gave me more anxiety — what should I be posting, what should I be doing, etc. were all thoughts constantly running through my head.

    I decided to take a week off social media to cleanse myself a bit — in hopes I’d live in the moment more, think less, and not be on my phone as much. And it worked. My phone time went down 60%+… I was spending more like 1-2 hours on my phone each day, as opposed to something like 6-8 before… yikes! And not only that, I felt less anxious and lonely.

    I realized I need to set some new boundaries for myself when it comes to my social media use, which I will most definitely be doing. And in addition, my ‘holiday slump’ has made me even more focused on loving myself and doing things that make me feel good.

    This week, I went to a hip hop dance class with my best friend and it was insane – SO fun. I went to a movie by myself, which always helps clear my head. I finally started a crafting project in my room that I’ve been thinking about for a while but continually putting off. I bought Christmas presents. I went to my friends’ musical they were starring in. I went to tons of yoga. All of these things brought me joy, and I will continue to find ways to bring myself that feeling of joy, while also knowing it’s not always going to feel ‘perfect.’ And that’s okay.

    I hope even in the hard times, and the low times, you still love yourself and help yourself find the things you enjoy. And even though my expectations get the best of me sometimes, I will never stop getting excited about things and pushing towards what brings me joy and makes me happy. I hope you don’t either, and I hope you love yourself to the fullest, even in the times of a ‘holiday slump.’

    XOXO, Kenzie

     

  • 3 Things I Learned Moving to a New City

    3 Things I Learned Moving to a New City

    Holy cow — it’s been a minute since I’ve written a post! Life lately has been pretty wild — and I just hit about 4 months in NYC — so figured I was due for an update post on what’s been going on.

    But instead of just rattling through updates in my life, I thought it might be worthwhile to include my 3 biggest learnings from moving to a new city. Here goes!

    1. Being nervous and taking risks means growth is coming. I’m going to be honest, I’ve probably never been as stressed as I was than when I was preparing to move to NYC. There were so many unknowns, which gave me the ultimate anxiety in thinking about what my experience would be like and how I would do. But like one of my favorite quotes says – “no risk, no magic.” And that is absolutely true. I’ve grown immensely in these past few months — with no shortage of hard times — but that’s only because I put myself in situations that were scary (moving to a new city being number one!). And fast forward to now, I’m so glad I did. But the first step was taking the risk, which is absolutely the hardest part (but worth it!).
    2. Building a community is absolutely crucial. From the second I got to New York, I’ve worked my hardest to build a community. I got really lucky to land at a welcoming, supportive community at Orangetheory Fitness and have some friends and family already in NYC — but I’m also trying to go to new things where I might meet new people — like sports leagues, events, museums, etc. A few times throughout this journey so far I’ve questioned myself in why I left my “comfort zone” – a steady job, friends and family, and a place that felt like home. But for many many months, I was feeling like there was more out there and that I had to try something new — and New York was a place I could do that while chasing some of my dreams I was pushing off to the side for much too long. Some days, I’m not going to lie, I miss home and wonder why I made the decision I did. But the good days — where I see challenge, growth, and positive things happening — make it all worth it. And having a community there to support you makes it all worth it, too, which is why this is so important!
    3. Feeling lonely and lost sometimes is normal. As I mentioned above, some days I feel completely lost and lonely. I question myself and I question why I chose to move to a new city. But then I think back to when I had all these dreams of moving to NYC, writing my book, getting out of my comfort zone — and I remember why I made the plunge. My family and friends are dear to my heart everyday — and I always remember that. But trying something new definitely means lonely days will be there — and I’m learning to cope with it and truly appreciate the time I do have with loved ones and friends — old and new. I’m also working on reaching out when I’m struggling, which really helps. But main point here: it’s normal to feel lonely sometimes, no matter where you are. When I have those days, I remember what it takes to get me out of my slump, do my best, and move on to the next day.

    If you’re thinking about moving to a new city, here are the main questions I thought about (for years, honestly). I hope this is helpful in some way to someone out there who’s contemplating a big move (or did make a move)!

    1. Why do I want to move? Don’t forget, life is still life — so moving to a new city won’t “solve” anything that might be an issue in your current life. What it will do is bring those issues to the forefront, ha. I thought about why I wanted to move for years, and ultimately landed on the decision that I was going for it. But sometimes it’s not always the answer, and that’s okay!
    2. What city do I want to move to and why? I did my research and landed on NYC, but other cities might be a fit for different people. Think about your goals and dreams and how that city matches up. Talk to friends who live there about living recommendations, things to think about, etc. and make some visits so you really know you see yourself there. Then, it’s time to pull the trigger!

    Did you enjoy this post? Want to talk about moving to a new city, or life in general? DM me on Instagram @thecurveconfessions or comment on this post! I’d love to chat with you.

    XOXO, Kenzie

  • Keeping My Mind Right Through Weight Loss/Gain, Dating, And Everything In Between

    Keeping My Mind Right Through Weight Loss/Gain, Dating, And Everything In Between

    It’s always driven me nuts that the first thing most people judge you on in this world is your looks and appearance.

    “You look like you’ve lost weight!” Or rather, *stark silence after an up down full body stare is done on your body by a relative and you’re already feeling a little bloated.*

    It’s exhausting, right? To constantly feel like we have to keep up with a certain appearance, impress our families and peers, men, and live up to whatever the expectation is that day- whether it’s in our heads or someone else’s.

    I am someone who has gained, lost, gained back, lost more, etc. my entire life. But how it affects my mood or my thoughts is actually a day to day thing I have to think about and manage. If I’m feeling bloated one day, is my entire day ruined? If someone doesn’t say I look good after giving my body a nice scan, am I annoyed? If someone tells me I look great, does my mood skyrocket?

    If you’re not shaking your heads “yes” to any of the above, ignore me. I have had body image issues my whole life so maybe I’m just an extreme example. But I was hoping that opening up about this would resonate with *someone* out there.

    And that fact is we don’t need to rely on our bodies and our looks for our self worth, and if we catch ourselves doing it, we need to stop and remember the qualities about ourselves that have absolutely nothing to do with our weight or looks. Remember how you worked so hard for something and achieved it? Or when you did a really nice thing for someone because you’re a great person? Just a few examples, but these are things we need to be leaning on when those negative body image thoughts creep into our heads.

    I am actually writing a book as we speak (which some of you may know), and I’m so excited to share some of the experiences/realizations I’ve come to through my novel. Like, so excited. But for now, I’ll share one recent story from a date I went on that put things into perspective for me a bit (and slightly inspired this post to finally be written).

    I went on my first date in New York last week and it was super fun. Without getting into details, I could tell this guy was super into me and I was excited. I was into him too, the chemistry was there, and we just hit it off. Throughout the night he was frequently complimenting my looks. He told me I was “more beautiful in person” and called me “sexy” a few times and let me tell you, I was eating it up. But when the next step (aka setting a new date up) didn’t exactly go as I planned, I backtracked and started to think negatively. I thought, “Did I do something wrong?” And it occurred to me that he didn’t even really know me. Like at all haha. While it was upsetting to not get what I wanted out of it, it made me learn so much (even though it’s one date, I know). I was so excited about the possibilities of this guy, but in reality, he doesn’t even know the real me. I was totally leaning on the fact that he was attracted to me and hanging on to those thoughts, even though as I mentioned earlier in this post, I should be leaning on the other things about me (that he doesn’t even really know yet). I checked myself, and I learned.

    And it inspired this post because, after a quick time spent in the dumps I remembered, I am a catch and this is not going to make me think otherwise. And another thing it made me realize, hence this post, is to stop relying so much on how people think we look or appear. I am so much more than that, and so are you.

    XOXO

  • What Is Body Neutrality, & Should We All Be Practicing It?

    What Is Body Neutrality, & Should We All Be Practicing It?

    If you follow and read my blog, you know I’m always talking about being body positive. But recently, I’ve dug into a new, similar concept called ‘body neutrality.’ But what is body neutrality, and should we be practicing it?

    I did some research, and the short answer is… absolutely. Essentially, body neutrality aims to encourage us all to accept the body we are in and focus on its achievements rather than its appearance. For example, thinking about what our bodies can do for us, as opposed to the way they look.

    To be honest, this has given me a whole new outlook on what I preach. Because the thing about body neutrality is that it makes it OK to have days where you don’t love your body. Because we all have those tough days, we all have our moments. But we have to remember what our bodies DO for us – not just what they look like.

    Don’t get me wrong, I still am preaching for us all to be confident in our own skin, that is for sure. I just think it’s important to practice body neutrality as well – so that we don’t feel guilty on days where we’re not feeling body positive, but instead appreciate our bodies for all they can do and are. So, I guess I’m body-positive-neutral? I hope you’ll join me.

    XOXO

    Photo credit: beyondbeautifulbook

  • Nike’s Plus Size Mannequin Makes a Bold Statement, But Why Is It Bold?

    Nike’s Plus Size Mannequin Makes a Bold Statement, But Why Is It Bold?

    If you haven’t seen it flooded in your social media feeds, this week news broke of Nike adding “plus size” mannequins to its flagship London store display.  Mostly, I’ve seen positive reactions on social media, with people commending them for putting these (very common) body types on display.

    I’m happy about it too. But I’m also still upset that it’s something that’s so bold – and at that, it’s also something receiving backlash. A Telegraph article called out the mannequin for being “obese” – which did receive backlash – but is insane to me that someone could say or think that.

    It’s also still kind of crazy to me that this body type is considered some ‘revolution’ by Nike – does the world realize 67% of women in the world are considered “plus size”? Don’t get me wrong, it’s amazing that a huge retailer like Nike is taking the liberty to do this- but I don’t think it should be some bold statement. It should be our world’s reality – because a lot of women relate to the looks of that mannequin.

    Oh, and the term plus size… I was always over it but I am definitely over it. ‘Plus size’ women shouldn’t have to be categorized in a different category than others shopping.

    Do you agree? Hoped you enjoyed this short, sweet, and to the point blog post this week! Xoxo

  • How Self Care Extends Into Loving Our Bodies; Plus My Favorite Ways To Practice It

    How Self Care Extends Into Loving Our Bodies; Plus My Favorite Ways To Practice It

    Self care is a loaded term and means different things to different people. I’m going to be honest, I used to kind of abuse the term self care, and use it as an excuse to “treat myself.” I’ve found there’s a healthier way to treat myself, in addition to my self care’s strong connection to loving my body. It doesn’t mean if I practice self care, I’m loving my body and everything’s perfect. It means when I practice self care, I’m doing positive things for myself and my body and ultimately continuing to build a strong relationship with myself and my body.

    Here’s how I see it; we take care of our bodies by practicing self care, which ultimately helps us work toward loving our bodies. So, self care should be a practice of doing positive things that make our bodies feel good, right? Here are my favorite ways to practice it (aside from the easy ones; working out and hanging out with friends/family!):

    • Bubble baths. Okay, if you follow me on Instagram, you know I love my bubble baths. They are so soothing and relaxing, and I love taking 30 minutes to an hour to myself to just decompress. If you don’t take them, you should think about it! We’re all always in a rush to take a shower or move on to the next thing, but baths allow me to slow down and really unwind. They are one of my FAVORITE self care practices.
    • Doing cleansing face masks. I love grabbing face masks whenever I’m at a convenient store, because every once in a while they are nice to unwind at the end of a long day with. They truly deep clean my face and skin, and leave me feeling super refreshed and relaxed.
    • Nights in to myself. Taking a night in to myself to relax is a huge way I can really connect to myself and my body. Sometimes it’s with a glass of wine, my favorite meal, or even no alcohol at all. It’s whatever my body needs at the time, but it’s important time that I cherish as part of my self care routine.
    • Getting massages. If you know me, you know I love getting back or full body massages. I just love them! And with all the exercise and movement I’m getting in, I find them so important to working out the kinks (literally). Massages can be expensive I know, but I’m always looking for deals – either at local massage places, on Groupon, etc. And these don’t have to be super regular, but getting one every once in a while is a nice way to treat yourself and your body!
    • Taking my makeup off and washing my face. At the end of every day, it’s so important to me to take my makeup off and wash my face. Not going to lie, there are days where it gets skipped, but it is such a priority in my self care regimen. Cleansing my skin and keeping it clean is a huge part of keeping myself feeling good, so it’s a small, yet important thing to me.

    Did you like this list, and are you more mindful of how self care impacts your body love? Tell me how you like to practice self care in the comments!

  • Inspirational Interview with Guest, Chicago Fitness Instructor Haley Gunst

    Inspirational Interview with Guest, Chicago Fitness Instructor Haley Gunst

    “The Curve Confessions by Kenzie is a movement inspiring women to find happiness in ourselves, no matter our size or shape; rock the skin we’re in with confidence; openly discuss body image issues we see in the world; and create a safe space where we all feel accepted.”

    I started this new interview series featuring stories from incredibly inspiring women; in hopes of inspiring others in their own journey of fitness, motivation, and life in general. Today’s guest is Haley Gunst, who recently came back to Chicago after finding her love for fitness and the outdoors in Seattle. Let me tell you, we are lucky to have her in Chicago, and I loved interviewing her! Check out the interview and check her out on Instagram @haleygunst.

    CC: Thanks so much for doing this interview, I’m so excited! Let’s cut to the chase. When did you become a yoga teacher and why? 

    Haley: I started my yoga training out in Seattle in October of 2017 and was officially on the teaching schedule in January of 2018. I had been nudged a couple of times by instructors to become a teacher and honestly brushed them off. Yoga was the one place I could go and feel like I could let my mind relax and wander, and I was scared to have that taken from me if I started knowing the ins and outs of teaching. However, I was living in Seattle, in a new stage of life and really needed a positive extra hobby. That same week of feeling a little lost, a teacher nudged me again and I decided maybe it was time to get out of my comfort zone and try it. CorePower was also one of the main places I went when I first moved to Seattle and knew no one. They gave me a sense of community when I felt really alone and I wanted to give that back to my community. I am in the midst of expanding my horizons and really wanting to invest more time into my fitness career. I also just tried out and earned a spot as an instructor at the Equinox Fitness Club. My good friend Lauren currently teaches there and knew they were opening up a new location and needed teachers, so she put me in touch with Julie Bellis, my new trainer and manager at Equinox. To say I’m excited would be an understatement. 

    CC: That’s amazing, I can’t wait to take your classes at Equinox soon – and of course love your yoga classes already. If someone wants to try you out, what are your class times?

    Haley: Right now I teach at CorePower Yoga at the Gold Coast, Chicago location at 6:45 pm Friday nights and 9:30 am Saturday mornings. I am currently getting on-boarded with Equinox and will have to go through a training before I am officially put on their schedule, but be on the lookout! They have a very wide range of classes, but I will be focusing on the strength and toning classes as well as the HIIT – High Interval Intensity Training classes.

    CC: Amazing, I hope people reading can check you out! So what would you say motivates you, and what is your biggest piece of advice to others looking for motivation?
    Haley: Oh wow, that’s a loaded question and sometimes it just depends on the day, haha. However, I have always been a very competitive person, and I think my biggest competition is myself. I am constantly trying to break my own personal PRs or see how much further I can push my body; mentally, physically, based on strength, endurance, anything really. Honestly the feeling of accomplishment after a tough workout, a race, or a new certification is reflecting back and realizing “wow, my body just did that, how much more can it do?” I can’t tell people what should motivate them, it should come from within and whatever their story is, however, your motivation should NOT be for anyone else. Yes a “revenge” body is great, but at some point that motivation will fade. It shouldn’t be to make your parents proud or to get attention from a guy, or even worse, for social media or the pressures that come from social media. These days it is REALLY hard to decipher what is real and what isn’t – don’t even get me started with the topic of FaceTune – but focus on yourself and what makes YOU want to be better, and that motivation will not fade.

    CC: That is amazing advice and I couldn’t agree more – doing things for others won’t get us anywhere. Why is fitness so important to you, and when/why did it become that way?
    Haley: I would say moving to Seattle really changed my life and my health. I got really active and really into the outdoors and my yoga practice and started feeling what it was like to make my body and health a priority. I felt amazing inside and out. However, I have faced some of my hardest personal life challenges this past year and taking care of my health mentally and physically has been extremely important. I cannot stress enough how important it is to take care of your mental health. What that looks like for each individual is different. For me, professional therapy, yoga, long talks with friends and family, journaling and fitness helped clear my mind and regain my self-confidence and mental strength. Physically I try to do some sort of activity whether it be CorePower Yoga, Orange Theory Fitness, Barry’s Bootcamp, Equinox Classes, long runs/walks along the lakeshore path, or trying a brand new class (shout out to that one boxing class I tried when I was holding in a TON of anxiety) at least 5 times a week. When I was going through the thick of some of my tougher days the hour or so of physical activity was honestly the only hour of the day that I could see and think clearly, so I really leaned on it to help me push through each day and slowly I got stronger and stronger, both mentally and physically. It may sound corny, but I am beyond thankful for all of the instructors and trainers I have come across in the last few years because they have truly changed my life and in a lot of ways; they saved my life as well. I hope to have that impact on my students as I grow as an instructor.

    CC: I love it, that’s great you got that new perspective out there (and we’re thankful you brought it to Chi). And I couldn’t agree more about that hour being so sacred and needed. So, random, but what would your ideal way to spend a day look like?

    Haley: Human connection, the outdoors, and exercise. If I get these three things each day, it is usually a pretty damn good day. Human connection is something I would like to transform my daily routine and career towards a little more. A lot of my day is spent sitting at my desk cranking out numbers (shout-out to my fellow nerdy math brains out there), and while that is great, I do crave more human interaction. That is kind of where teaching fitness classes comes into play, and obviously getting together with friends – new and old – always makes the work week a little less stressful. If I could build some mountains out here in the Midwest, I would. I think that’s the thing I miss the most about Seattle… seeing and exploring the outdoors and how much it has to offer, however, I often walk 35 minutes to and from work each day and will jam out to music, listen to my podcasts, or call my parents/friends. These 35 minutes at the beginning and end of my day have almost become necessary, I take that time to decompress the craziness going on in my life because the craziness never ends…

    CC: I love it, and agree on the human interaction part girl. How do you recommend others get into fitness or a side hustle, based on your own experience?

    Haley: I would say first evaluate what you want to do and why. Don’t get into fitness because you read this interview and felt like you had to. However, once you have a desire to change your routine or start something new, OWN IT. Start telling people what you’re doing so that you hold yourself accountable, start prioritizing your schedule to fit in whatever you need in order to make that change, and plan ahead. Goals are much easier to accomplish when there is a very clear game plan – it doesn’t have to be perfect, but for example, if you want to start incorporating more fitness into your life, maybe that means an early wake up call to get it done – start small – plan which day (yes, start with one day) of the week that will be and make it happen, no excuses, and then grow from there. Habits, positive and negative, are created by ACTIONS. You and only you hold the control to those actions.

    CC: Great advice. Another thing I love asking; who inspires you? 

    Haley: My grandma, who isn’t here anymore, but I always think about her, and I think that living your life hoping to impact people so that they continue to remember you after you’re gone is a great way to live. A lot of decisions I make, or the way I choose to treat people is based off of that motto. Give love and positivity, receive love and positivity back. Also currently obsessed with @MarenMorris and @iamCardiB (yes, I said it) and their bad-ass woman power vibe, both of their albums got me through some tough stuff, @averagefashionblogger who literally cracks me up every single day and is un-apologetically herself, @JasonLoebig who was able to take a leap of faith from his 9-5 desk job to follow a passion and is absolutely crushing it and motivating others along the way, and my dad, because my dad just simply rocks. If you know him, you know. 

    CC: Love all those people. So as you know The CC talks a lot about body image, would you say you encourage all shapes and sizes to take your classes? Why? 

    Haley: YES. When I invite people to my classes the first thing majority of people say is “I’m not good at yoga” or “I haven’t worked out in so long, I wouldn’t make it”, or something of the sort. NO MORE. The person next to you in class at one point in their life had never taken the class before either. Everyone starts somewhere. Also, I promise you that everyone in your class is focused on themselves and themselves only. We are all in this together and just need to continue supporting each other.

    CC: Great for all my readers to know! Well, that’s a wrap. Any other notable things to say about your journey to fitness, side hustles, motivation, etc.?             
    Haley: No one is promised tomorrow, so what are you going to do with today?

    Love that quote & thanks again for taking the time, so inspiring! If you’re interested in checking out Haley in action, look her up on Instagram @haleygunst and DM her for a spot in class! 

    Keep inspiring, Hales! Xoxo.

  • 5 of My Favorite Ways to Love My Body More

    5 of My Favorite Ways to Love My Body More

    I’ve been thinking a lot recently about the complex relationships we have with our bodies – not everyday is going to be a slam dunk, “I feel amazing,” but a lot of our days SHOULD be. And overall it’s important to be comfortable and happy in our skin to put happiness and good vibes out there (speaking from experience!).

    I thought I’d put together my favorite ways to love my body. These are easy things to incorporate into our daily lives — and quite frankly, I need the reminder every once in a while!

    Here are my favorite ways to love my body (take them or leave them!):

    1. Not comparing myself to others. If I’m being honest, I used to be terrible at this. I have really skinny and beautiful friends and I used to find myself constantly wishing I looked like them. The day I accepted I was my own kind of beautiful was a good day, but it took a lot of self love on my part. Another woman’s beauty does not impact your own and stopping comparison is SO important in loving my body more. Yes, that includes Instagram scrolling and magazines with stick thin models. Don’t fall victim!

    2. Complimenting myself & speaking positively to/about my body. It sounds vain, but I try to give myself compliments all the time. “Damn you look good today!”… or whatever compliment that’s positive works! The positivity radiates and can really make a huge difference in how I see myself. If I’m constantly talking down to myself, that sets a horrible precedent, right? I see it as, I spent a lot of years being extremely mean to myself, so I’m making up for it 😉

    3. Creating a daily affirmation and/or gratitude list. I’ve talked a bit about this on my Instagram, but I’m obsessed with daily affirmations and gratitude. I have daily affirmations that I tell myself out loud or in my head, and I also try to write down what I’m grateful for constantly. It keeps me grounded and it definitely helps with my overall love for myself, including my body. I do want to work on doing my daily affirmation every morning though!

    4. Incorporating foods that I love but also make me feel good. Eating healthy foods that give me energy… man what a game changer in my overall feelings about my body. I’m not always the strictest (which I think is good), but overall finding foods that make me feel good helps me immensely with my body love. Veggies, eggs, avocado toast, the list goes on!

    5. Exercising regularly & doing workouts I love – but also incorporating stretching & yoga. I love exercising now, but not everyday is a situation where I’m sprinting the gym excited as all hell. Haha, some days I’m dragging myself there, honestly, but it’s all for how it makes my body feel. It’s pretty amazing to see what my body is capable of and how much confidence and strength it gives me. Yoga has changed the game for me too, because some days I just need some zen and stretching. Listening to my body is the ticket here, but I always remind myself how great it makes me feel at the end!

    That’s all folks. Do you like this list? Does it resonate? Tell me your favorite ways to love your body, I’d love to chat!

    Xoxo Kenzie

    @thecurveconfessions

  • Inspirational Interview with Guest, Chicago Fitness Instructor Lauren Zerante

    Inspirational Interview with Guest, Chicago Fitness Instructor Lauren Zerante

    “The Curve Confessions by Kenzie is a movement inspiring women to find happiness in ourselves, no matter our size or shape; rock the skin we’re in with confidence; openly discuss body image issues we see in the world; and create a safe space where we all feel accepted.”

    I can speak to the fact that fitness is a way to find happiness and confidence in ourselves, and that’s not just for our physical appearance, but for our overall emotional well being, inner strength, etc.

    Lauren Zerante is someone who helped me find my love for fitness again and is an inspiring instructor and fitness connoisseur in Chicago. She also happens to be my best friend of over a decade. Read our interview to get inspired and learn more about her side hustle and motivation (if you get to the end you can find a way to try her classes, too)!

    CC: Thanks for joining me Lauren! So let’s cut to the chase, when did you become a group fitness instructor and why? 
    Lauren: Thanks for having me! I received my yoga sculpt certification from CorePower Yoga in April of 2015. I had been going and taking class religiously after graduating and moving back home, and one day I thought about taking the plunge and doing teacher training. I had been looking to fill the void my college volleyball career provided and this seemed like the perfect opportunity. I love being around people, leading groups, and it’s no surprise that I love working out. Fast forward a few years later and I found myself wanting to focus on studying more forms of exercise, specifically HIIT- high intensity interval training, outside of the yoga studio. I decided to get my NASM personal training certification and later pursue group fitness at Equinox. I started teaching classes there in April of 2018.
    CC: Amazing, obviously I love your classes 🙂 Can you tell my readers where/when you teach?
    Lauren: Yes! Here they are.
    Corepower Yoga Sculpt schedule: Monday mornings at CPY Old Town 5:45 am, Thursday evenings 5:45 pm at CPY River North
    Equinox: Saturday METCON3 11:45 am at Equinox Lincoln Park
    CC: I hope some readers can make it to your classes! Can you tell us what motivates you, and what is your biggest piece of advice to others looking for motivation?
    Lauren: It sounds kind of cliche but, myself. I am a super competitive person but I’ve found that I get the most gratitude when I see myself improving in things over time vs doing ‘better’ than someone else. I like to run and usually run 1-2 half marathons a year. My biggest motivation for those is doing everything I can to beat my last race time or learn something new in the training process. My biggest piece of advice would be to find something that you truly enjoy. Motivation will always lack if you view something as a chore. In today’s fitness world there are sooo many studios and different ways to stay active. My advice would be to explore all those options until you find something that clicks.
    CC: I can definitely vouch for that and totally agree. Tell us, why is fitness so important to you, and when/why did it become that way?
    Lauren: It’s the best ‘me time’ that I’ve been able to find. When I’m working out, no matter what the workout is (alone or in a class) I’m able to completely disconnect from what’s going on in my life and my (usually) long to do list. Teaching group fitness is just as important for me because it’s a way to connect with others on a really unique and special level. Seeing people come back each week and put in the work, transform their mind and body, and do things they didn’t think they could do in the past has been extremely rewarding. I know that for a lot of people, that one hour in their day is as special for them as it is for me so it’s definitely a big deal to be leading that time.

    CC: Absolutely agree girlfriend. Random question for my readers; what would your ideal way to spend a day look like?

    Lauren: I love working out with friends, so my ideal day would be either teaching a class with friends in it or taking one with them! Catching up after over coffee/dinner/drinks is always an added plus. Now that it’s warm out in Chicago my ideal day would be hanging out on some kind of roof top/patio or taking a walk along the lake. And my ideal day would probably end with ice cream… duh.

    CC: Sounds like a fun day hehe. How do you recommend others get into fitness or a side hustle, based on your own experience?

    Lauren: Community is the biggest thing that comes to mind when answering this question. The Chicago fitness community is pretty unbelievable, and I know a lot of other cities have similar dynamics. Take classes, don’t be afraid to introduce yourself to fellow classmates or instructors. Research fitness events- there are tons. ASweatLife is a great resource and way to meet people who have a passion for fitness as well as check out the many studios around the nation.

    CC: That’s great advice. Who inspires you?
    Lauren: Oohh this is tough. I have a lot of ‘favorite’ instructors in the Chicago area the list would be very long. One of my favorite ‘insta inspirations’ is @rksolidnyc. She’s a former Barry’s Bootcamp/current Peloton instructor and I find her approach to fitness to be authentic, dedicated, and relatable. I also enjoy following @ashwilking, a Nike Trainer and Rumble boxer trainer in NYC. She’s a total bada** and I absolutely loved taking her class in person at Rumble in NYC recently.
    CC: Inspo to the max, I’m following now! So on the topic of body image… Do you encourage all shapes and sizes to take your classes?
    Lauren: Absolutely. All shapes and sizes, all ages, and all fitness backgrounds. Modifications are always an option in my class and I will never force someone to do something they are a) not comfortable with or b) have physical limitations doing. One of the most common things I hear from people prior to doing my class or really any workout class is “I’m not good at x”, whether that be yoga, running, lifting. Group fitness classes aren’t about being “good” or “bad” at something. And in my classes, being “good” at yoga sculpt or “good” at HIIT will never be a thing. It’s about showing up, being around others, and pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone. I say this a lot in my classes but you have to “trust me and trust yourself”.

    Thanks for the inspiring interview, Lauren!

    Readers: if you want to try Lauren’s class, DM her on Instagram at @lzerante. You won’t regret it!

  • Why I Never Want To Hear The Words “Summer Body” Again

    Why I Never Want To Hear The Words “Summer Body” Again

    “I need to get my summer bod!”

    “Man I want to lose a few before summer starts.”

    How many things like the above have you heard, or even said yourself? The weather’s getting warmer which means summer is on everybody’s minds. And you know what summer means; swimsuits and baring it all.

    But summer also means the dreaded comments from friends and family about how they need to lose a few, get abs, get in the gym… the list goes on. Since I’ve started my blog I notice WAY more of these conversations happening and try my best to intervene telling people they look great now; no summer body needed.

    So that’s what brings me to this post. The fact that we all need to calm down over our bodies morphing into some “new season” body. Do you have a body? Do you have a swimsuit? You have a beach body then.

    I’m not going to sit here on my high horse and act like I don’t think about myself in a swimsuit either. I definitely do. But I think we owe it all to ourselves to let it be. Get in the gym and feel good, but don’t kill yourself for some unattainable summer body or to look like your favorite influencer in their string bikini. Instead, I challenge you to start looking in the mirror and saying “damn I look good!” Or buying a new swimsuit that you feel confident AF in, no matter what size or style it is.

    Let’s get rid of the term summer body and love ourselves how we are now. It will only save us from wishing for something unattainable and being disappointed later – and there ain’t nothing to be disappointed about.

    XOXO

  • My Favorite Spring Looks & Pieces Giving Me Confidence 

    My Favorite Spring Looks & Pieces Giving Me Confidence 

    I’m so excited for a few things – one of them being the weather getting warmer, and another being a change in fashion seasons. With that change in seasons always comes the apparent awkwardness in my fashion choices – what the heck do I wear?

    Some days, I’ve been able to throw on sandals, while the next day it’s snowing. It’s up in the air, but that’s not stopping me from transitioning my favorite pieces over to spring. Even though it’s awkward with the weather, my number one fashion rule remains – be comfortable and confident.

    Personally, my favorite things to wear are those that express my personality; red, leopard, etc. are obvious choices. But some days, I just want to be comfortable. Some days, I want to be fierce and out there. No matter what, I think our style is part of our identities and confidence – so it’s so important to be true to ourselves.

    I love bargains and love finding pieces that work for various seasons. Here are some of my top spring looks I’m bringing into this new season:

    I’m not sure what makes this outfit more – the pants or the red jacket – but I’m obsessed with both pieces. This is definitely an outfit on the bolder side, but is great for spring days because it’s dressed up, and the red jacket acts as a light coat. It can always be taken off (see look below) and thrown off the shoulder or carried.

    Red jacket: Zara 

    Leopard pants: Nordstrom Rack

    Combat boots: Nordstrom

    Sunglasses: Mulberry and Me

    Outfit #2:


    This outfit is comfortable yet a little edgy! I’ve been looking for a black jean jacket for FOREVER and finally found this crop one from Topshop and am obsessed. I also love rocking combats with the unusual outfits, and this was definitely an opportunity for that. If it’s really hot, I can take off the jean jacket and/or sub out sandals for the combats to make this outfit more weather friendly.

    Romper: Urban Outfitters

    Crop jean jacket: Topshop

    Earrings & sunglasses: Mulberry and Me

    Outfit #3:


    This outfit is similar to above, except it has the red pop with this red jean jacket. I’m obsessed with this jacket – it literally goes with anything. The red jacket can definitely be thrown over different types of outfits, too, but this one is comfy yet adorable!

    Red jean jacket: Nordstrom

    Outfit #4:


    This outfit makes me feel like a sassy chick. It’s comfortable yet professional, and could be swapped to a tank and sandals for warmer weather. These pants were so cheap but are a nice material so I don’t feel like a slob wearing them. And duh, they’re so fun!

    Black top: Nordstrom

    Leopard pants: Nordstrom Rack

    Combat boots: Nordstrom

    Outfit #5:


    Athletic wear is usually what you can find me in – whether I’m running to a workout class or running errands around town, this jacket was a must have from Zara. I actually saw a girl wearing it at the airport once and then coincidentally found it – it was fate! It’s super clean looking and could even be dressed up with jeans!

    Jacket: Zara

  • Traveling Solo: What I Learned and Why Everyone Should Do It

    Traveling Solo: What I Learned and Why Everyone Should Do It

    Studying abroad is something I was fortunate enough to get the opportunity to do in college. I studied a semester in Verona, Italy and it was an absolutely life changing experience.

     I definitely got the experience of going out of my comfort zone by being in a different country, speaking a different language, and meeting new people. However, looking back I realize I definitely stayed well within my comfort zone while abroad, because I was always in a group with others I somewhat knew.

    But while I was over there, I met someone who was traveling alone and was in absolute awe of her. I thought to myself, “I could never do that,” but deep down felt an urge to get to the point where I could. So I kept it in the back of my mind, and set the goal last year that I would conquer my fears of traveling alone. So I set out what I had to do to get there – which included saving money and planning for time off from work (and trip logistics, of course). And last fall, I conquered my fear and traveled solo to Europe (Italy, Switzerland, France, and the U.K.).

    So, I thought I’d write a post about my own personal experience, what I got out of it, and why I think everyone should experience something similar if they can. 

    Why I did it: I did it to challenge myself and prove to myself that I could. I also did it to get some time to myself and really dig deep into my life, my goals, and exploring other places completely on my own. Conquering that fear felt like a hurdle and learning experience I was yearning for.

    What I got out of it: A lot. I learned a lot about myself (because you have NO idea what it’s like being alone until you’re literally alone in your thoughts in another country), met a ton of people, got way out of my comfort zone, and ultimately conquered my fears – which alone made it all worth it. Side note: For part of my trip I did a “group tour,” which was basically a bunch of single people from different countries coming together to explore different cities. That was also an incredible part of my experience because I got to meet new people and put myself out there, which was another highlight of my journey. 

    Why everyone should do it: All of the reasons above. I honestly would do it again but go to other countries if I can, because everyone should travel and explore new places and cultures. If you’re itching to travel, do it. Make a plan for how you’re going to get there and go after it. You won’t regret it!

    All in all, traveling alone was a huge confidence booster and personal growth experience. I came home and was like, “wow, I’m not afraid of anything anymore!” Of course, I’m human and have fears still just like everyone, but this experience truly helped me in so many ways personally that I am so grateful for. And I hope others feel inspired to take the plunge.

    Now who’s booking their solo trip? 😉

  • The Recent Step I Took To Get Out Of My Comfort Zone And Chase My Happiness And Dreams

    The Recent Step I Took To Get Out Of My Comfort Zone And Chase My Happiness And Dreams

    The past few weeks have been unconventional (and exciting) to say the least, because I kind of did a thing – I quit my job that I’ve been at for the past four years.

    Let’s start from the beginning of my career. I’ve been working since I graduated college, which was almost five years ago. I landed at a large PR agency that at the time was my ‘dream job’ and dove right in to agency life.

    I started my internship there and learned a lot, stayed for 8 months; then got offered a position as an intern at another agency. And four years later, here I am. I’ve been promoted a few times and am now a Senior Account Executive. I have so much great experience under my belt and have met so many great people along the way, and I won’t ever take that for granted. But two weeks ago, I quit.

    Here’s why:

    1. My favorite motto of all time is that life is too short to be anything but happy – but that’s because it really is. And that quote makes me realize that if god forbid something were to happen, I wouldn’t want to spend another minute unhappy in my day to day. There are a lot of things that go into my decision and I’m not going to go into detail, but in the self reflection I’ve worked on, I realized my job was no longer serving me and it was my time to move on and take a mental break from it all. So I made the serious decision that working part time and freelance gigs, making my own schedule, and de-stressing for a little while I look for opportunities was an immediate way I could get there. So I took the plunge.
    2. I’m looking for day to day work that ignites my soul and brings out my passion. And my next job will be exactly that – a brand that I’m amped to get behind and work for, an opportunity that allows me to write and extend my writing skills, and allows me to work towards my goals of being a writer and author. Or maybe even a completely different path that allows me to focus on my writing on the side – it’s still unknown. And it may have been an uncomfortable decision to leave what’s been known to me for so long, but it’s ultimately going to get me closer to my long-term goals and help me grow. And this decision also means I’ll be dedicating more time to those things that do ignite my passions – like writing for my blog, working on my book, and looking for freelance writing/content gigs.

    Honestly, what held me back from doing this for a long time was my fear. What will people think of me? Will I ever get another corporate job? What if I fail? These are just a few of the fears running through my head.

    But I was finally ready to face my fears and take a chance. I know it’s not the most conventional decision – quitting a job with a steady paycheck for something unknown – but in this moment, I know it’s what I want and need. And remember the whole life is too short thing? At least I can be happy that I stuck to my gut and am following my happiness and dreams.

    I will get another corporate job soon, I’m sure. But after this break I’m taking, I want to make sure it’s bringing me closer to my goals and serving me happiness. Because if it’s not – what’s the point?

    I’ll leave this last quote that I don’t think I’ll ever get out of my head – “how you spend your days is how you spend your life.” And with that I say, follow your dreams and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise (not even the voices in your head).

    And if you’re interested, here are some steps I took that might help:

    1. Write down your 5 and 10-year plans and what it will take to get there
    2. Make a list of everything in your life and evaluate if/how it’s getting you there
    3. If you’re finding things not serving you and your happiness/dreams, cut ties with those things
    4. Make a decision about what you’re going to do to change and do it; then move on
    5. Make a plan and next steps for how you are going to hit your dreams and goals – then go for it!

    Special shout out to my Mom, Dad, family and friends, who always lift me up and show me nothing but support through everything. I couldn’t do it without you all! XOXO.

  • How Trying New Workouts Can Boost Your Confidence

    How Trying New Workouts Can Boost Your Confidence

    Working out can be an intimidating thing – whether it’s at a gym or specific workout studio – we’ve all felt “gym intimidation” before. By trying something new and unknown, you’re putting yourself out there; where you’ll be around people you don’t know, around people who have different bodies than you, and who might just be more experienced than you at this specific workout. But what I’ve learned recently is none of that matters – and trying new workouts can actually build your confidence.

    Almost two years ago I was beyond afraid of trying high intensity interval training workout, Shred415 (Read: The Workout and Positive Mindset that Changed My Life). My best friend kept convincing me I should try, and I always turned her down out of fear. I would use excuses like “I’m not a runner” or “I don’t think I can do a workout like that.” Two years later, I’m still regularly going and it’s a workout that helped me immensely on my weight loss and health journey – and even helped me complete my first triathlon (another thing I thought I couldn’t do). It did take months and months of going completely out of my comfort zone to get there – but it’s ultimately helped my confidence for the better.

    And that goes the same for other workouts I’ve tried over the years, too – Barry’s Bootcamp, Yoga, Cycling, Barre – and there are still new workouts I want to try. Every time I walk into a new studio, I may start out of my comfort zone, but I end the class feeling so accomplished. And hell, I grew to become a regular at a place I thought I could never try!

    My point is – don’t count out a workout because of a thought or fear in your head. Grab a friend (or yourself), check out a studio, and build your confidence! It might end up changing your life. 😉

    Now what workouts are you going to try?

  • Why We Should All Think Twice Before Giving the “Skinny” Compliment

    Why We Should All Think Twice Before Giving the “Skinny” Compliment

    Coming from someone who’s struggled with body image my entire life, I have SO many thoughts on the skinny compliment. “You look so skinny” – we’ve all heard it, said it, or maybe even received it – but in my opinion, it can actually be a terrible compliment. Here’s why.

    First of all, I think the skinny compliment instinctively makes us all think we SHOULD be skinny. It feels like people say it as if it’s some great thing, when it probably isn’t the best thing to promote. What about using the words “healthy” or “strong” or “great”?

    But when you’re told it, doesn’t it just seem like the best thing ever? Like you never want it to end? That’s because it feels good to feel like you look like you should, or look how other “skinny” people do, or feel like your hard work is paying off. But I don’t think that’s necessarily healthy.

    I think it’s great to encourage other people and share compliments – I love that – but I do think we all should consider how we’re complimenting people and what we’re promoting. I’d rather be seen as healthy, strong, etc. than skinny, and I think sharing those types of compliments is something we should all get into a better habit of.

    Also, side note, no matter what anyone says – you are amazing just the way you are.

     

     

  • Why Self Care is For Everyone

    Why Self Care is For Everyone

    Self care is something I’ve found to be so important on my journey of self love, and it’s something that we all might look at a little differently.

    But no matter which way you look at self care in your own life, it is for everyone. It’s a way to take care of yourself – mind, body, and soul – and something I believe should be actively thought about in all of our lives. It’s also a way to evaluate what YOU need to care for yourself.

    The way I looked at self care has evolved a lot over the past few years. I used to treat myself to things that weren’t necessarily good for me – like having a sweet treat or letting myself skip a night at the gym. My relationship with treating myself changed when I started to realize I wanted to fuel my body and treat it well – and that my self care routine should directly reflect that. I’m not saying I never treat myself to sweets (ha I promise I do), but the way I look at my self care routine has definitely changed for the better.

    I started getting into things that made myself and my body feel better – like baths (if you’ve seen my Instagram stories, you already know), face masks to exfoliate and nourish my skin, taking vitamins, spending nights to myself with a glass of wine, taking class at Shred415, doing yoga, etc. I’d say self care is something I’ve completely prioritized, and when I start to get overwhelmed or stressed by life, I immediately incorporate a self care routine. But even if I don’t have a reason, I want to be sure these things I enjoy are incorporated into my regular routine – and I think that’s how it should be for us all!

    What are your favorite ways to practice self care, and what’s your motive for doing it? I’d love to hear! Now go grab a glass of wine or a bath, you deserve it 😉

    Photo credit: @Shape

  • National Eating Disorders Awareness Week: Why We All Need to Get Behind the #ComeAsYouAre Campaign

    National Eating Disorders Awareness Week: Why We All Need to Get Behind the #ComeAsYouAre Campaign

    If you’re unfamiliar with the National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA), this week is a great time to get familiar. NEDA is the largest nonprofit organization dedicated to supporting people and families affected by eating disorders – and from February 25 through March 3 (coined National Eating Disorders Awareness Week) – they’re raising awareness of eating disorders to educate others and remind those struggling they’re not alone.

    It is estimated that eating disorders will effect 20 million women and 10 million men in America alone in their lifetime. Eating disorders come in many different forms and affect people of all different backgrounds, and are specifically more likely to be developed by people with negative body image (which personally resonates with me).

    To spread awareness this year, the National Eating Disorders Association teamed up with Instagram to create their #ComeAsYouAre campaign, a movement to let individuals at all stages of body acceptance and eating disorders recovery know that their stories are valid, and to encourage them to share their whole stories – “the real, the mess, the un-perfect moments.”

    We all know Instagram can be a place filled with pressure – to feel we should look a certain way, to compare our bodies to others, etc. – and this campaign is such an important reminder that we should all be accepted exactly the way we are.

    Whether you’ve experienced an eating disorder, body image issues, or know someone who has, this year’s movement is important for us all – and I’m so grateful to be a part of it (even if it’s just posting my own photo and story).

    I hope you consider spreading awareness, too. Eating disorders and body image issues affect so many people, and it’s so important to educate ourselves and remind those struggling they’re not alone. And this campaign is a great way to do just that.

  • Valentine’s Day Confession: The (Good and Bad) Reality of Being Single as a Pringle

    Valentine’s Day Confession: The (Good and Bad) Reality of Being Single as a Pringle

    “Are you dating anyone?”

    Ah, the dreaded question at every family party or catch up with a friend that has me thinking on my feet – will it be a witty response about my pure singleness, or a serious rundown of my near nonexistent flings on dating apps? Ask me and find out! 😉

    Valentine’s Day is upon us, and yesterday was also Self Love Day (did you catch my 13 Days of Self Love campaign on Instagram?). So, I found this a perfect time to shed some light and real talk on this whole single thing as a twenty-something in the thick of it.

    First, I’m going to admit that loving ourselves in an ongoing, every day process. You don’t just wake up one day and love yourself – you work at it just like you work at a fitness routine or healthy lifestyle – it’s a process that ebbs and flows.

    And that process as a single person comes with serious highs, but also serious lows. One day, you’re a proud, independent woman who doesn’t need a man – and the next, you’re crying over some dude. It’s a daily struggle.

    I don’t mean ‘struggle’ to be severe, but I do mean to say that it is not always easy. Don’t get me wrong, I know relationships aren’t easy either. But going it alone can put you up against some potentially dark and lonely times that you must dig yourself out of (girlfriends are the best, am I right?). But, on the other end, it also can mean a whole lot of self-growth and strength you never knew you had – beautiful right?

    I recently talked to a friend of mine about dating. I entered the conversation thinking I had it all figured out (see above: you’re a proud, independent woman who doesn’t need a man), but I ended the conversation realizing yes, I definitely crave that feeling of love sometimes… and that’s okay.

    I came to the realization that it’s okay to feel alone sometimes, crave that feeling of love from someone, or be a proud independent at any given moment – these are just the natural feelings of a single person (at least, in my opinion). I have no proof of this besides the fact that I am living proof of this.

    And I also came to the realization being single doesn’t mean you have to love every second of it – but it does mean you have to love yourself like crazy. Hence: my Self Love campaign! It also means you have to surround yourself with amazing people who lift you up and love you. So this Valentine’s Day, I’m grabbing a glass of wine (maybe two), some close friends, and toasting to the journey of love – whatever path that may be for all of us (single or not).

    Happy Valentine’s Day and Self Love Day! XOXO, Your Favorite “Single as a Pringle” Gal

    PS – Does this resonate with you? Let me know so I don’t feel like a vulnerable single who just put it all out there. K thanks!

  • An Open Letter to The Bachelor: Where Are The Curves At?

    An Open Letter to The Bachelor: Where Are The Curves At?

    Dear Bachelor Franchise,

    I am writing because I noticed a huge flaw in your programming – one that is quite frankly an epidemic in today’s media – and that is your failure to include curvy women on your show.

    Question: When casting your seasons for The Bachelor, do you have a requirement that says, “Women must be no bigger than a size 4?” Because I’m going to be honest, I see a little more body diversity when men are competing for the rose, but not so much when it’s women.

    There’s nothing wrong with these women that are featured on the show season after season – I don’t skinny shame – but there’s a whole lot of thick and curvy women that you’re missing out on. And quite frankly that America’s missing out on when you don’t include anyone on the show bigger than a size 4.

    But what’s wrong with this ‘letter’ is I shouldn’t even have to be writing it – it should just be happening. Curvy, thick, plus-size women – whatever you want to call it – shouldn’t have to fight to be the norm or included in a popular show to find love. Thick women ARE the norm. In fact, 67% of women are considered plus-size. Though I dislike the term plus-size, I’m curious as to why this isn’t it depicted in a popular TV show like yours that millennials, impressionable teens, and the like are watching?

    I asked myself the same thing when I was watching the new season with my roommate the other night – where the heck are the curves at? And sadly, it’s the same story every single season.

    As a woman watching who has curves, nowhere near a six-pack, and still is just as deserving of finding love as the next person, it’d be nice to see some more body diversity on your show. So that’s why I’m writing this letter that you’ll probably never read – but you should. Because I speak for a lot of women whose body types aren’t being represented, but very well should be… 67%+ to be exact.

    And not going to lie… I actually think Colton could use some curves. Just saying. 😉

    Sincerely,

    Your Favorite TV Viewer (And Guilty Bachelor Viewer)

  • This Year’s Resolution: Practicing Forgiveness

    This Year’s Resolution: Practicing Forgiveness

    It’s New Year’s resolutions time, which has me shamefully recalling a whole lot of old resolutions focused on my weight or appearance (sigh). In reflecting on this past year, I’m envisioning 2019 being a whole lot different in many ways. And right now, it’s time to get real.

    I’ve made a lot of progress this past year around my body and self-love, but there’s always growth to be made. And while I’ve made strides to love my body for what it is, it was hard this year to not get fixated on it. I’ve lost weight and people have taken notice – but I’ve realized that’s a really empty feeling to lean on. Because at the end of the day, you’re standing there with yourself – but if you’re so focused on your appearance that can leave a lot of emptiness, right? It’s so important to have pride in other areas of your life and recognize yourself as more than just your body – because we are all SO much more than that. That was a huge reminder for me this year.

    I consider myself a body positive blogger, but what I’ve learned is that doesn’t mean I’m perfect and have all my shit worked out – I certainly don’t. I have moments of insecurity, doubt, unhappiness – you name it. But it only makes me stronger in the end, and only makes me want to come out fighting for body positivity and self-love in the world even harder.

    I’ve seen so many terrible, terrible things happening with body image, especially on social media – like people fat shaming and skinny shaming others constantly. It makes me sick when other people take their own insecurities out on other people (which I really think is true).

    I’m proud of myself for taking one of my huge insecurities and flipping it on its head to inspire and motivate others to love themselves. I am. But I’m also not proud of myself for these sometimes looming feelings I have or not writing about it often enough – I think to myself, “I’m a body image blogger, darn it!”

    But what I’m working on moving into 2019 is forgiveness.

    Forgive your body for gaining a couple pounds over the holidays, because it meant spending quality time with the people you love and the numbers don’t matter. Forgive yourself for putting something on the back burner, because you’re allowed to live your life and find your passions your own way.

    In the back half of 2018, I pretty much completely stopped writing for my blog. I had so many other things on my mind and prioritized other things – like fitness/running a triathlon, taking care of myself and mental health, spending time with friends, working, traveling, relaxing, etc. And while I sometimes want to smack myself and go, “Ugh, Kenzie. You need to work on your blog more, what are you doing?!” I’m choosing forgiveness. I’m choosing to forgive myself from taking a little hiatus, because I’m allowed to live my life. I’m allowed to live out my passions, and it’s not always going to be picture perfect or give me inspiration to write every day. And that’s okay.

    Spending time reflecting has me realizing how much pressure there really is in this world – pressure to have a “perfect” life, have a ton of money, have a perfectly DIY’ed home, have a perfect blog, have a boyfriend/fiancé/husband, look amazing in a swimsuit – okay, maybe this is what I’m seeing but I think everyone else is seeing it on their social media feeds, too. There’s pressure all around us, and it can be completely anxiety inducing at times. And this applies to the blogging world too, as there are a lot of “picture perfect” or seemingly “better” bloggers out there that might mess with your mind.

    But I have to go back and think about WHY I’m doing things, and ask myself, “Am I doing it to be this perfect blogger?” I don’t want to live like that – I want to live MY life for me (and recognize it’s okay to feel a little lost in that sometimes). For a while, I had nothing that was really speaking to me so I didn’t write for a bit. I can forgive myself for that, because that pressure I’m putting on myself to be this amazing blogger is for what? I started my blog because I wanted to empower people to love themselves, educate them on body image, and write. I can still do that in my everyday life, through my Instagram, in person, or privately, but not necessarily write things publicly every week to be a good “blogger.” So that’s what I’m doing – forgiving myself – and remembering everyone is on their own journey.

    I have serious goals for myself in 2019 – one of them is to continue writing for my blog more frequently. But I also want to start a podcast, go on more dates, keep pushing fitness goals, get promoted at work… the list goes on. But while I have so many things I want to work on, I also want to forgive myself if things aren’t PERFECTLY met, because that’s life. So whatever inspires you in the moment, makes you feel good, moves you closer to your goals, do it! And don’t do it for the gram… do it for YOU.

    Cheers to a happy and healthy 2019! What are your resolutions?

    XOXO, Kenzie

  • Lessons From My First Triathlon

    Lessons From My First Triathlon

    For years, completing a triathlon has been a dream I thought I couldn’t physically achieve – but just over a week ago, that all changed.

    I am so beyond happy to say that I completed my first triathlon just over a week ago in Chicago. Today, receiving the photos of me from race day really put it into perspective – I did it! I swam for .47 miles, biked 15 miles, and ran 3.1 miles.

    One year ago today, and many years leading up to that, I watched my mom complete multiple triathlons and always wanted to do one myself. But like a lot of us do, I told myself I “could never” and wrote it off year after year. One year, I even told people I was doing it then backed out.

    So I thought I’d write a post to share my experience, but also speak to the people reading who think they could never do a triathlon, think they can’t complete that half marathon race, or whatever that doubt is. I’m here to promise you that you can.

    But what I also promise you is that you have to get to a place (mentally and physically) that you may not have gone before – which again, you can. Just last year, not only was I saying I couldn’t run, I was also saying I couldn’t do the triathlon, and probably so many other terrible, negative things. Looking back, I can’t even believe all the things I shut out of my life just because I thought I couldn’t.

    This year has certainly proven my theories wrong. I’m running every single week – but it has nothing to do with my weight – I could run when I was 50 pounds heavier, too. Everything it has to do with is my mindset. The second I started telling myself I could do things, shit just started happening. That’s not a coincidence – not in my book anyways.

    Getting to the point (physically and mentally) where I felt confident and strong enough to compete in the triathlon took about a year. It took a year of regular Shred415 classes, which included strength training and cardio that absolutely kicked my butt. It took 3 months of training and getting ready to swim, bike, and run – all in a row, using muscles I probably hadn’t used in a while. But it also took a mentality of “I CAN do this.” And that last part is more important than people may think.

    I trained diligently, but I also told myself day in and day out that I had this in the bag. And come race day, that mentality stayed the same – I believed in myself and I crushed my first race (because I finished, which was my goal!). I never wavered from my positive thoughts, and it had me smiling through race day – including 90+ degree heat (and trust me, I am not a heat person).

    If you’re reading this post – I encourage you to go sign up for that workout class you thought you couldn’t do, sign up for that race – do that thing that you’ve always told yourself you couldn’t. If it’s a longer term goal, sign up early and make a game plan. I promise, you will come out on the other side, stronger and happier than ever.

    And you know I absolutely love inspiring people, and the support I’ve received has been overwhelming, but it has by no means been an easy or perfect road. I’ve had my moments of doubt, anxiety, potential injury – you name it – but I made it through, and I know others can too.

    Thank you to everyone who supported me through this triathlon – I couldn’t have done it without you.

    If you ever want to chat about the triathlon, training, etc. please email me – I’d love to chat! thecurveconfessions@gmail.com

    XOXO, Kenzie

  • These three celebrities are talking body image and I’m SO here for it

    These three celebrities are talking body image and I’m SO here for it

    Well, hello everyone. It’s been a bit since I’ve written a blog post… I’m excited to be back! Side note from this blog, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about my blog and how to spice things up and bring more updates to you all. Without getting into too much detail… get ready for more updates, more blog posts, and a whole lot more inspo, people.

    But back to the post… celebrities killing the body positive movement lately. Yes please. As you have probably noticed, I follow the celebrity scene pretty closely. Kind of a guilty pleasure? And since starting The Curve Confessions, I’ve realized now more than ever they are talking about body image. How cool for my blog, right?! Exactly what I was thinking.

    This Sunday, gather some inspiration from each of these amazing ways celebrities are supporting ALL OF US in the body positive movement.

    • Beyonce: Since I know there’s a lot of ladies out there who follow and love the Queen Bey, I think her recent interview and cover with Vogue was SO important. If you missed it, check it out. She talks about her post-partum body and how she’s loving her “FUPA” (her words, not mine!), and how she gave herself self-love and self-care, and embraced being curvier following her complicated pregnancy. Hell yeah, girl. In my opinion, the message here is listen to your body and rock it no matter what stage you’re at. And I’m so glad she could bring that message to the masses in this interview.
    • Emmy Rossum: If you aren’t familiar with the name, Emmy stars in Shameless (aka the best show ever). And not only is she an incredible actress, but I’ve also been catching that she’s an awesome person, too. Shortly after the whole Kardashian’s calling each other “so skinny” thing and talking about their weight (Kim saying on her Instagram story that she’s 119 pounds), Emmy has been promoting some crazy good messages about weight (and how it’s so not important). She wrote a series of Instagram posts asking her followers if they wanted to know how much she weighed – followed by an image of her with things about herself that had absolutely nothing to do with weight. She then encouraged followers to post their own photos – and directed them to an online community called “I Weigh,” which is a movement to look beyond the scale. I’m SO here for this and love Emmy even more now. I encourage everyone to follow both Emmy (@emmy) and I Weigh (@i_weigh) for more inspiration.
    • Amy Schumer: Okay, Schumer is always a proponent of telling women everywhere to rock the skin they’re in. I’m beyond late to the party, but I watched her movie ‘I Feel Pretty’ and it gave me all the feels. She basically breaks down society’s expectations of women and the pressure we put on ourselves, but sheds light on the fact that no matter how you look – EVERYONE feels their own insecurities. But beyond that, it encourages women to have confidence no matter what their size is (something I hope you all feel when following my blog!). In addition to her movie that I was completely late to the game on, she also recently spoke at the BlogHer 2018 conference, encouraging women to lift each other up. Basically, I’m just all in for Amy Schumer’s support of women and positive body image, and I hope you are too.

    These women are just a few examples of celebrities in the public eye talking about issues that are SO important for girls and women everywhere to hear and practice. This is the stuff I love seeing – and only hope to continue seeing.

    Question for you: Do you like the celebrity stuff? Do you want to see more of it? I hope so! But that’s also okay if not. Leave me a comment or drop me an email if you have anything specific you want to see me write about. thecurveconfessions@gmail.com. And if you’re not following me on Instagram, get going! @thecurveconfessions

    Have a kick butt Sunday, you all. Oh also, speaking of celebs, if you haven’t listened to Ariana Grande’s new album Sweetener, please go do that.

    XOXO, Kenzie

  • Social Media’s Negative Effects on Body Image – And What We Can Do About It

    Social Media’s Negative Effects on Body Image – And What We Can Do About It

    Have you ever felt bad about your body after scrolling your social media feeds before? Unfortunately, my hunch is that a lot of us would answer ‘yes’ to this question.

    And a new study from WebMD draws the same conclusion, as the findings show women are less likely to be happy with their bodies if they spend more than an hour a day on social media (um, pretty sure that’s all of us). Another recent survey says 80% of women compare themselves to images in the media – most of these comparisons being negative.

    SIGH. I think we can all agree that we’ve scrolled Instagram or seen some type of social media post that made us compare ourselves or not feel good (cue the picture of some cute girl on a beach in her bikini). And it’s important to be conscious of how social media is affecting your thoughts about yourself, and do as much as possible to avoid or help yourself through those negative feelings.

    In hopes of curbing this social media problem (and these findings that make me really sad), here are a few things I want to make a better effort of doing:

    • Sharing more realness. No makeup, no poses, yeah, the real stuff. I’ve always said I wanted to do more of this, and after getting fired up over these findings – it’s happening. The more we’re all showing our real sides and not just the perfect way we want to be depicted on social media, the more normalized that will become. And even if we’re not posting no makeup pictures, being less focused on being so ‘perfect’ in our photos will help too.
    • Scrolling less. Another thing I’ve wanted to curb is my addiction to scrolling. Though it’s part of my job to stay up to date on the latest trends, and I truly do enjoy seeing content out there from friends, etc., there’s got to be a certain limit – which I have to believe will also limit my exposure to these negative effects of social media, right? Trying to set limits (i.e., no phone before bed, take a break from social media for the day, etc.) could really help.
    • Checking ourselves when we start to compare or envy someone. The more we make ourselves aware of this issue, the better. If I’m scrolling aimlessly and not even realizing that I’m starting to think negatively about myself, how am I going to change that negativity? Scrolling less will certainly help, but being aware and really thinking about it next time could help too. You might have a moment where you’re like, ‘Wow this is dumb, why am I comparing myself to this person?’ and it can help you move on.

    Do you have any others? Is this something you’re going to put into practice in your own life? Tell me your thoughts in the comments or email me at thecurveconfessions@gmail.com!

  • The Curve Confessionals: Callie

    The Curve Confessionals: Callie

    About the interview: Throughout my life, my older sister Callie has always been a role model to me in a lot of ways. And when it comes to her body, Callie has always had a certain confidence that I really admire. I can’t think of a time where Callie has not rocked her body and size, no matter what weight she was at. Callie and I are currently roommates in an apartment in Chicago, and over the past year we’ve both made some serious changes to our lifestyles and fitness routines to better our health, which she talks about in our interview. In addition to that, she’s got some great insight on finding confidence and self love. Check it all out in our full interview below!

    CC: What’s YOUR body image story?

    Callie: I’ve honestly been pretty comfortable and confident in my body since I was young. I’ve always been kind of in the middle ground (never the skinniest, or most muscular) but always felt comfortable with my shape and actually have liked it most of the time! I was never the girl who carefully chose what I ate or worked out everyday. I pretty much eat whatever I want and workout when I’m feeling inspired (which is sporadic at best), but it’s something that people in my life have always loved about me; I’m just me, take it or leave it. I’ve definitely gone through some weight fluctuations throughout my life, I got much curvier in college and then dropped some weight after college but have stayed pretty steady (probably thanks to having a little bit of height) and most of my friends and family don’t take a ton of notice because these changes have never been super drastic. It’s been pretty recently (over the last year or so) that I’ve really started to think more about my health/lifestyle and body because I just was not feeling as confident or good about my body as I used to. This really peaked these last few months. I put on some weight, and while most of my friends and family haven’t really noticed (even when I’ve probed) I started to notice some little things…. My clothes were a little tighter than I prefer, I was a little more sluggish and tired than usual and I just felt bigger than I’ve ever been, and this was not the normal fluctuation that I was used to. I started thinking it was just one of my normal little gains but I think part of it is (sadly) that I’m getting older, so it’s more important than ever that I’m conscientious of my health habits because they have way more of an impact on my body now than when I was 20. This is COMPLETELY overwhelming to me because I’ve always been someone that if I wanted to lose 5 pounds, I could do it pretty easily and I never really had to have a “plan” or think about my habits too hard but I knew that I had to commit to making a major change if I wanted to see results this time. Living with Kenzie, I saw the healthy choices she was making and her transformation, and finally had the thought “if she can do it, so can I!” The gym that I was inconsistently going to near my work was doing a “6 week challenge” starting in February with meal plans & workout incentives and, after some consideration, I signed up! This was the kickstart to my lifestyle change… I followed the meal plan pretty closely and was working out 4-5 times per week and believe it or not… I was seeing results! I ended up losing 11 pounds in 6 weeks and felt AMAZING. I fit into clothes that hadn’t fit me for the last year and could see a huge difference in my body and my energy levels. I’ve continued making healthy choices, working out regularly and holding myself accountable and I feel better than ever! It’s been so motivating and just makes me want to keep going!
    CC: Why is body image/self love/self acceptance important to you?
    Callie: Self acceptance and self love are so important to me because I have always been one of those girls who never let my body image get me down. Of course, I’ve had my insecurities, like anyone else, but overall I think I’ve maintained a pretty positive attitude about my body and I’m really proud of that! I think it’s helped me to accept that I will never be the “tiny” girl of the group, I’m just me and there are a lot of things to love about my body!
    CC: What has been your biggest body image struggle (or one you’ve witnessed)?
    Callie: One struggle I’ve had (that I’m just starting to realize) is that whenever I’ve gone on a workout kick in the past, it’s been just to lose weight, look better, fit into my tight jeans—but never for my own health and wellness. I think it’s important to focus on how working out makes you feel physically and mentally and finding the workout that makes you feel at your best.  From witnessing friends and family go through body transformations, that is the ONLY way I’ve seen it work. They find something that inspires them like yoga, Shred415, Orange Theory, Pure Barre or whatever and just make it a part of their routine. That’s something that has always overwhelmed me because I’ve just never been a workout junkie and I never thought I would be. I am, by no means, the person in class lifting the heaviest weights or running the fastest, but I’ve found myself craving workouts. I think it’s important to find a workout that is the best fit for YOU. I’ve found that Shred415 has really been a saving grace for me because it’s a mix of running, lifting and aerobics and the atmosphere is extremely welcoming. In the past, I would have to force myself to get to the gym and only went because I felt like I should… I truly think it’s about finding the workout and atmosphere that makes you feel good and keeps you coming back!
    CC: What’s one thing you’d say to your younger, middle school aged self if you could go back? Or to younger girls today?
    Callie: I would say that there is not ONE beautiful. I think in middle school/high school, girls are just so hyper focused on following the latest trends, being the prettiest, and having the best body… but what the hell does that even mean?? All the women in my life have completely different bodies; some are curvy, while others are athletic and muscular, while others are tall and thin– and I think they’re all beautiful in their own way! As you get older, you learn that everyone is SO different and that’s what makes the world go round.
    CC: What do you do to love your body?
    Callie: I surround myself with people who not only accept me but lift me up. My friends and family have always supported and encouraged me whether it’s through a compliment about my outfit or pushing me to run a marathon, their support gives me so much confidence and their love helps me to love my body. I’ve also continued to play volleyball into adulthood which I really think has helped me to see that even though I’m not in the athletic shape I was in high school… I still got it! That makes me proud of my body and the skills I possess. Another thing that I do to love my body (that I think can be good and bad) is listen to my body. I’m not a natural born runner but I’ve pushed myself in some long distance races. In training and the races, I did what my body was capable of. I never pressured myself to get a certain time or do something my body couldn’t handle. I listen to my body– some days I feel like I could run a half marathon and other days I can barely run a mile, but that’s okay, my body deserves a break sometimes!
  • Easy Ways to Practice Self-Love – and why it’s So Important

    Easy Ways to Practice Self-Love – and why it’s So Important

    Ah, self-love. Something that the hustle and bustle of our lives – a busy schedule, crazy work week, or stressful situations in our personal lives – can quickly try to ignore or diminish. Well I’m here as your little reminder to take a moment, reflect on how your week (or life) is going, and give yourself some much needed – and deserved – love.

    I’ll get to the ways of how to do that, but I also want to explain why it’s so important to us all. Did you know that self-acceptance could be the key to a happier life? One study says just that, but also that it’s the happy habit that people practice the least. It has SO many benefits – like giving you motivation to reach your health goals, helping with mental health issues, to name just a few of them.

    In the craziness of life, we’ve all just got to find time for ourselves – both physically and mentally. Here are some of my favorite ways you can show yourself some love, starting now:

    • Make a morning mantra. What’s something you can say to yourself every morning that will create a positive mindset for your day? Think about something you want to reinforce to yourself – that you’re beautiful? That you’re worthy? That you’re enough? Whatever you choose, work on repeating it to yourself, either in the morning, or a time in the day that feels right to have that little reminder. Positive self-talk is so huge and is truly important in treating ourselves right, so the more you practice it, the better.
    • Make a list of everything you like about yourself. This may sound insane to you, but really think about it – what do you love about yourself? It can be physical attributes, qualities about yourself, whatever you want – write it down. Reference the list when you’re having a tough time, or make a point to repeat these things out loud to yourself whenever you need to. This list is only going to help you continue to realize and appreciate the amazing things you see in yourself. I’ll admit, I did this a while ago but haven’t reflected on these things in a while – time to revisit my list!
    • Turn off your device for a while. We are constantly connected to our devices – whether it’s checking email, scrolling social media, or texting friends – but we all need and deserve a break sometimes. Give yourself an hour before bed to recharge and be away from the distractions, or turn your phone off while you’re relaxing on the couch tonight. Doing so is only giving you more time to reflect and live in the moment, and may also de-stress you a little without feeling like you are on and connected. We all deserve to give ourselves a break, and it can give you opportunities to do things other than scroll!
    • Keep the right people around you. Self-love can be largely affected by who you’re surrounding yourself with and what you’re tolerating. If you have a friendship or relationship that isn’t serving you positively – whether they’re not treating you right or not making you feel good – get rid of it. The love you surround yourself with can only help build you up, and if you feel like something’s tearing you down, it’s time to reevaluate why you’re fighting so hard for it. It’s about time to realize you deserve better.

    We’ve all had moments where self-love feels like the last thing on our list, but it’s SO important to make room for it in our daily lives. How do you practice self-love, or what tips did you find most helpful? Tell me in the comments, or email me at thecurveconfessions@gmail.com – I’d love to hear from you!

  • The Curve Confessionals: Jenna

    The Curve Confessionals: Jenna

    About the interview: Jenna and I first met as youngsters in middle school, and have grown closer and closer over the years. She’s about as cute as a button, and in our interview honestly shares her own triumphs with being petite and finding confidence. She’s a superb role model to her younger siblings, and shares some incredible thoughts on my questions during our interview. Read on for some major feels and inspo!

    CC: What’s YOUR body image story?

    J: Hmmm… Well I fall into the “petite” category, I was always the smallest in the class, the tiniest baby, still don’t understand what a “percentile” is… you get the point. Growing up I was super sensitive of how short and small I was. I will never forget the day I came home crying in first grade: we learned a fact that the size of your heartis the size of your fist typically. Some kid in class turned to me and said, “Wow yours is pretty small then!” He likely didn’t mean it as an insult. My short-already sensitive about my size- seven-year-old self- took that as he told me “I was a mean person with a small heart.” I was often the butt of a lot of jokes, although most were playful, but I always wanted to be taller. Especially when the sport I chose to stick with was…basketball. Needless to say my basketball career never made it past 7th grade. I am not sure when I finally began to accept my height… Maybe it was the fact that I have been 5’1 since the 7th grade? But I know now it’s nothing I can change. I spend money getting things hemmed and scan shops for petite sections, but being little is what makes me, me.

    CC: Why is body image/self love/self acceptance important to you?

    J: It is important to me for many reasons, one big one is I have a sister who is about to enter high school. When we were growing up, we obviously had the media and some Internet, but with Instagram it creates a whole new realm of fake. Photoshop is real, normal people use it for their pictures to alter their body, not even just celebrities. It creates this completely altered reality that people (like my sister) likely believe to be true.

    CC: What has been your biggest body image struggle (or one you’ve witnessed)?

    J: Finding health and wellness in college- I gained a lot of weight when I went to college, and for me having such a small frame, the weight really showed. I didn’t know at the time that I had gotten bigger and my clothes weren’t fitting–I was pretty much enjoying college and super happy at the time. I don’t regret it for a second because I was having fun, and it taught me the importance of truly taking care of myself on so many levels. I learned I could no longer rely on my metabolism—especially when on an all bagel/pizza/ramen diet.

    CC: What has been your biggest body image victory (or one you’ve witnessed)?

    J: Cleaning my act up in college, being active and finding work outs I enjoy doing—not to lose weight, but because I genuinely enjoy doing them.

    CC: Have you always loved your body? How do you keep that confidence?

    J: To be honest I don’t think I have ever “loved” my body. I have never disliked it, but I want to be at a point where I love my body because I worked for it.

    CC: If you haven’t, how have you worked to get there?

    J: I am my happiest self when I am working out and eating healthy. I am not someone that works out 7, or even 5 days a week—I don’t think I’ll ever be, at least not in the near future. I love cooking in general, especially healthy meals, and how I feel afterwards makes me genuinely so happy. I strive to do both more and more—in my photo here I had worked out and cooked healthy meals for a while leading up to that family vacation. I felt so ready for my bikini pictures, and loved how confident my sister was, too.

    CC: Do you compare yourself to other girls a lot/feel pressure to look a certain way at times? Why do you think you do?

    J: I don’t think I feel pressure to look a certain way now, but I’ll certainly look at things girls wear on instagram like friends or bloggers I follow, and find myself wishing I could wear something like they’re wearing. I simply wouldn’t wear what they were because I know I would not look “as good as” them.

    CC: What’s one thing you’d say to your younger, middle school aged self if you could go back? Or to younger girls today?

    J: Be confident- I am working on my confidence every day. If it would have started a younger age… I can’t help but to think how much more confident I would be now. Don’t be afraid to wear clothes different than your friends, play sports different than your friends, etc. Do YOU. Also, not everyone has a thigh gap, it’s simply just how people were made. Oh, and one more thing. Weight is a number-it’s about how your clothes fit, and most importantly how you feel. Don’t ever compare your weight to somebody else’s. It’s a waste of time–you and someone else’s body frame are incomparable!

  • The Curve Confessionals: Kitty

    The Curve Confessionals: Kitty

    About the interview: Kitty and I have been friends forever, and over the years, she’s learned a lot when it comes to caring for her body. In our interview, she talks honestly about her journey to finding a healthy balance in life, including food, fitness, and mental health. Read on for my interview with Kitty to learn more about her journey!

    CC: What’s YOUR body image story?

    K: I feel like having a positive body image is almost completely dependent on where one is mentally. When one is trying to deal with overwhelming stress or anxiety your body gets thrown to the wayside because you just don’t have the energy to care.

    It took me about 23 years to finally begin to care about both my body and my mind. Growing up as a shy and timid Catholic school girl, I was constantly comparing myself to others and wishing I could change so many things about the way I looked, as many adolescent girls do. I would have periods of working out multiple times a day and thinking eating one “big” meal was sufficient. Then once I started to get mentally and physically burnt out, I would eat everything I was depriving myself of before. These irrational thoughts and also lack of knowledge continued into college, which brought along with it the stress and anxiety of trying to make something of yourself while also trying to maintain a social life. For some, this was easy, and it was truly “the best four years of their life.” For me, I felt like I was slowly losing control. I wasn’t taking proper care of either my mind or my body and then I would feel bad about myself, and it would turn into a viscous cycle. The sad thing is, I know if I had eaten healthier or exercised regularly I would have been so much happier.

    Towards my senior year, I began realizing what it meant to work out and feel strong rather than to feel skinny. I began to view food as fuel rather than as calories. I started doing yoga to calm my racing thoughts by focusing on breathing or nailing a pose. I can truly say that starting to live a healthy lifestyle changed my life. Endorphins are a real thing. Exercising (in moderation) has sooo many benefits for not only your physical health, but overall mental well-being. It helps with mood, relieving anxiety, and will give you a sense of accomplishment and appreciation for your body that you might never have felt before. You actually CAN run farther than you thought or you actually ARE able to hold a difficult yoga posture, things you maybe once thought were impossible. Appreciating your body and what it can do will cause you to want to take care of it and I believe a healthy cycle will result.

    CC: If you haven’t always loved your body, how have you worked to get there?

    K: I exercise not only for the endorphins, but also for the satisfaction and appreciation it brings along with it. Honestly, the older I get, the more important my health has become. You’re only given one body so you might as well take care of it.

    CC: What’s one thing you’d say to your younger, middle school aged self if you could go back? Or to younger girls today?

    K: Be accepting of who you are, but strive for good health. As cliché as it sounds, get active! Not only is exercise chemically and biologically good for your brain, but it can also help form friendships and character, which are so important at that age. I’ve met some of my best friends through playing soccer. Even though it might not have been my favorite sport, it got me to be active and social rather than obsessing over stupid middle school stuff.

    CC: What has been your biggest body image victory?

    K: Learning that everything in moderation is okay. It’s been the hardest thing for me to learn to enjoy indulging and not feel bad about it. But if you deprive your body of things you love, how are you supposed to live a happy life?

    This interview is a part of The Curve Confessionals, a new content series on the Curve Confessions featuring other’s body image stories. Want to be interviewed, or know someone who might? Email thecurveconfessions@gmail.com for more details. 

  • The Curve Confessionals: Chloe

    The Curve Confessionals: Chloe

    About the interview: Chloe and I have been friends for a long time, and she has always had a great figure. But as I always preach, everyone has their own body image struggles, and Chloe at times has felt that people don’t understand hers. I think it’s so important to acknowledge that we all have our own bodies, goals, etc., and no one should be discounted for their thoughts just because they’re considered thin. Chloe also shares ways she’s learned to love her body, like eating healthy and working out with a trainer, but I can appreciate that she also likes to treat herself! Read on for my interview with Chloe, who has a thing or two to teach us about loving ourselves.
    CC: Why is body image/self love/self acceptance important to you?

    C: Having grown up with a mom who had had a serious eating disorder before I was born it was always important for her to teach me to love my body. I grew up hearing stories about her struggles and she really wanted me to know the importance loving yourself.

    CC: What has been your biggest body image struggle?

    C: This is going to sound dumb so bear with me, I gain weight mostly in my boobs, butt, and stomach. OH MY GAWD POOR ME I know. But for me I can be feeling really shitty about myself and how I am looking and people write it off as a joke or act like I am offending them by saying I am not happy with my body. But that’s the thing, everyBODY is different and we all have our own versions of our own best body.

    CC: If you haven’t always loved your body, how are you working to get there? 

    C: For me I think I have definitely getting been more comfortable in my skin as I grow up. In middle school I just wanted to look like all my friends, in high school I cared about what the boys liked in girls, in college I was living off the Watterson Towers pasta bar and late night D.P. Dough and my weight was incredibly up and down. But now that I have graduated and recently turned 25 I find myself taking an initiative to care for my body and love and accept myself how I am.

    CC: Does the media/models/celebrities have an impact on how you see yourself? Any examples? 

    C: I would be lying if I didn’t say looking in a magazine I look at Gigi Hadid or Jen Aniston and think damn I want to look like that. But someone said something to me recently that really stayed with me, “that is literally their JOB to look like that.” It’s so true they get paid to eat the best food, get the best trainers, and spend every day in the gym. Comparing yourself to these people is so apples and oranges.

    CC: Do you compare yourself to other girls a lot/feel pressure to look a certain way at times? Why do you think you do?

    C: I definitely feel pressure at times to look a specific way. Let’s be real I recently joined a gym got a trainer and changed my whole diet because I was going to Coachella and going to be surrounded by hundreds of flat tummys and toned arms. But it all comes down to this, did it motivate me to change my lifestyle for the better? Yes definitely! But it is so important to use each other as motivation and not as a reason to starve yourself or kill yourself at the gym.

    CC: What’s one thing you’d say to your younger, middle school aged self if you could go back? Or to younger girls today? 

    C: I think it is so so so important to love your body and not compare it to others. I definitely wish I could go back to middle school Chloe and tell her don’t worry you will get boobs one day, and it won’t be nearly as exciting as you think it will be.

    CC: What do you do to love your body? 

    C: I try to eat healthy during the work week, packing my lunches has been such a great way to improve what I am eating (and spending). I workout with my trainer and love doing classes to switch things up like yoga, barre or boxing (can i get a hell yeah). But I also think it is sooo important to give yourself a break and treat yourself, when I am craving Portillos I’m gonna get a beef, cheese fries, and large coke. If I feel like having a bum day and skipping the gym I’ll let myself without feeling guilty. That’s how I love my body!

    This interview is a part of The Curve Confessionals, a new content series on the Curve Confessions featuring other’s body image stories. Want to be interviewed, or know someone who might? Email thecurveconfessions@gmail.com for more details.